Bisexuality: Straddling the Fence

With heterosexuality being the “norm” when it comes to attraction and sexuality, second on the list would be gay and lesbian people that have bravely and confidently come out as being involved in an alternative lifestyle. There IS another group, however, that probably doesn’t get quite as much attention as the other two. That group is made up of bisexual people. These are individuals that are attracted to both men and women.

It’s a bit difficult to be a part of this group because there doesn’t seem to be any defining lines for it. If you’re heterosexual, or straight, then you’re attracted to people of the opposite sex as you. Gay people are attracted to people of the same sex as they are. Bisexuals, on the other hand, are attracted to both sexes no matter what they may be.

Oddly enough, bisexuals often have more trouble getting dates or meeting people for potential romantic relationships than either straight or gay people. One of the biggest concerns that people have with regards to dating bisexuals is the fear that a bisexual partner may leave at any time for someone of the opposite sex than their current partner. This may be true to a degree but when ANYONE is in a committed relationship, they’re not going to be looking for someone else to take up with. In other words, bisexual individuals are no more apt to leave a relationship than either a straight or gay person.

Many men find bisexual women very compelling because they have these visuals of two women  together sexually. They think that nothing could be hotter than dating a bisexual woman so they never consider the fact that these women are also normal. They don’t think about sex constantly. If they happen to meet someone of either sex that they’re attracted to, the difference is that they’re open to pursuing a relationship with that person.

If you happen to be bisexual and are trying to find someone exciting to date that will understand you, there ARE places that you can look that will land you a successful prospect or three. The internet is a great place to start. There you will find plenty of dating sites that cater to bisexual individuals. These are the sites that will allow you to pair up with someone that really understands you in a way that others never will.  One such site is QDates.com, which is a large online dating community for gay, lesbian, and bisexual people of both sexes.

If you’re into things like Speed Dating, there are events that you can attend that target bisexual people. These can be a lot of fun and you can certainly meet some interesting people this way. If you’re really successful, you’ll meet one or two people that you find delightful.

Of course, there are always bars and nightclubs that you can go to in search of some entertainment. You can choose to go to either straight clubs or gay ones, depending on your mood. That’s the true beauty of being a bisexual person. You definitely do have many more choices when it comes to the world of dating, sex, and relationships. The best thing you can do is enjoy yourself and make the most of it.

Are You Threesome Material?

The majority of relationships have usually always been between two partners. Whether this was a man and a woman, two men, or two women, it’s still a relationship consisting of a pair. Something that’s been emerging more and more over the last several years is that of triad relationships. The simple definition of a triad is commonly a couple dating the same third person.  In many instances, the third person moves in with the couple and they all live together.

A triad is becoming a more popular alternative lifestyle for bisexual people. These triads can consist of two men and a woman or two women and a man. In some cases of gay partners, it can be made up of three men or three women.  It totally depends on the type of arrangement that works best for you.

Celebrities have apparently been into these types of relationships for quite a while. Former adult movie actress, Nina Hartley, and her husband make a third woman a part of their relationship on a regular basis. Nina is admittedly bisexual and this is an arrangement that has worked quite well for this couple over the years. When they bring someone into their marriage as a third party, they also bring that woman into their home to live with them for as long as the arrangement lasts. In this case, a triad is very successful.

Threesomes have been around for centuries, but the triad is a bit newer and more inclusive than just as a one night fling. This is an arrangement where everyone lives together, sleeps together, and basically IS together. They go out to dinner together, see movies together, and attend parties and other social gatherings all as a triad. They don’t hide their lifestyle, either. People involved in triad simply don’t look at what they do as anything really out of the ordinary because, for them, it IS normal.

For the many women these days that are having trouble with finding the right relationship, a triad could be another option that would have them involved in a meaningful relationship in a much shorter time. Of course, if you’re not bisexual, it’s probably not something you would be interested in unless you have the chance to become involved in a triad with two men. It depends on just how open minded you are. If you’re more of a traditionalist, a triad is probably not going to work for you. However, if you’re open to trying new things, it’s certainly something that you may want to consider.

A triad is a non-traditional relationship that’s truly not for everyone, but you may surprise yourself. Most of the time, it’s all a matter of the people involved in these sorts of relationships. You may consider all sorts of alternative options just by meeting the right people that will push all of your good buttons. If not, there’s certainly nothing wrong with wanting to be a traditionalist and be in a relationship with one partner.

Dealing with Overzealous Parents When Coming Out of the Closet

Families take the news that they have a gay or lesbian child in various ways. Some of them are horrified once their child comes out of the closet and drive this child away from home and their lives. Other families are quietly disappointed but supportive because they want their child to be happy.

Then there are the families that are not only supportive but do their very best to jump right into this new alternative lifestyle of their child. They host gatherings that allow them the chance to show just how “cool” and “open minded” they are about their child being gay. In fact, they do everything possible to help their child live a truly happy life as a lesbian or gay man.

One of the first things that these overzealous parents tend to do is try to set their child up with various other gay people in hopes of finding just the perfect partner. While this is a wonderful and very loving thought, it can become very tiring for the grown up child at the center of all of this attention. Something that these enthusiastic parents don’t seem to get is that people want to find their own partners in their own way.

Parents usually aren’t going to know exactly what type of person that their child is going to be most attracted to. Yet, that doesn’t seem to stop them. It’s like these parents are trying so very hard to show their support for their child that they’re trying TOO hard.

Now, once you’ve moved past the shock that your parents don’t hate you and aren’t horrified that you’re gay, your next issue becomes just what to do to slow them down a bit without hurting their feelings.

Obviously, you don’t want to appear ungrateful of their understanding, especially when you think about how many of your gay friends were tossed out on their ears when their families found out they were gay. Still, you need to be allowed to choose your own dates and see where they lead.

The first thing to try may be the only thing you need to do. Since your parents are trying to be so supportive of your lifestyle, all you may have to do is sit them down and talk to them. Tell them very honestly that you’re so appreciative of their love and support of your lifestyle. Be sure that you emphasize that fact. Then, as gently and lovingly as possible, explain to them that you prefer to meet your potential partners on your own.

It’s so very important that you make your explanations matter of fact and in a manner that lets your parents know just how much you love them for accepting you. Then, let them know that they can relax because you do know just how much they love you. They don’t have to keep trying to prove anything to you or to anyone else.

If you have this conversation in just the right way, your parents will most likely calm down and settle back into life as they know it. Then you can move along in your life, finding your own partner.