As a Gay Man Are You Just “Settling?”

When many gay men first decide to come out as who they really are, they’re a bit hesitant about approaching the men that they want to get to know better. Instead, when they go out to have some fun and meet guys that they aren’t all that interested in, they’ll still hook up with them. They feel it’s better to settle for what they can get even if it’s not exactly what they truly want. If this describes you, it needs to stop right now!

Depending on how long you’ve known you are attracted to men, you may or may not have a “type” that you’re more drawn to than others. If you know what you like, don’t just settle for what doesn’t attract you. It’s not fair to you nor is it fair to the guy that’s interested in you. On the other hand, if you have no clue exactly what sort of man you want to be in your life, you’ll have to spend some time with the process of elimination. This doesn’t have to be cruel, either. You just need to put yourself out there where you’re sure to meet other gay men so that you can scope out what’s available to you.

Start by finding an image that represents your “ideal” man. It can be a movie star, a model, or even a porn star. Then grade these images on a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of how attractive or hot you find each one. Next, you’re going to choose a private location, such as your bedroom, and tape your final choice of the ideal man for you to a full length mirror. Now, assign a grade to your own attractiveness by using the same 1 to 10 scale. Make the comparison between your reflection and the picture.

This is an exercise that serves as a reality check to help you to keep your desires and expectations in line with the type of man that you can realistically expect to attract. It also works to help you increase your own scores by doing some self-improvement techniques. This includes working on your physical appearance and other presentation areas. As your personal scores improve, so will your self-esteem and give you the confidence to go out and find that perfect man for you.

Now, doesn’t that sound a lot better than just settling for men that really don’t do anything for you? It may not be as immediate as just going out and going home with some guy, but this way can bring about a more permanent relationship into your life. Besides, you need to be the best you can be, anyway, and this is a great way of reaching your full potential.

Just remember that everyone has something to work with. You may not have what it takes to land a celebrity, but then how many guys REALLY have that potential unless they’re in that world? You’ll find who you want in your life and be a lot happier.   You can start meeting sincere, single gay men at online dating sites such as All Gay Dating – Click here to meet gay men today!