The Worst Times to Break Up with Someone

Typically, you can tell when you’re in a relationship that’s really going nowhere, and you can feel when you’re ready to end that relationship. While it’s always good to know where you stand, it’s also wise to realize when the time of the break up is not right. Obviously, breaking up is never going to be easy, but you can make it even worse by choosing the wrong time to end a relationship.

For instance, birthdays are TERRIBLE times to break up with someone. So if you know that you’re going to end a relationship, please do so well BEFORE his birthday or well AFTER it. If you choose the day before, of, or the day after his birthday to break up, it will always leave a bad feeling with him. Every birthday is going to remind him that his relationship ended at that time. So, if you can manage it, time the break up so that it’s a decent amount of time on either side of his birthday and never, ever make it on the birthday itself.

Another awful break up day is Valentine’s Day. This is the day for lovers and couples to celebrate every year. If you decide to end your relationship on this day, you run the risk of ruining it for him for a very long time, if not forever. That’s why knowing when you’re ready to leave a relationship is a good thing as you can time the break up for a day that doesn’t mean anything to either of you.

Holidays should never be used to end a relationship for many reasons. Obviously, one of them is that this particular holiday may never be enjoyable again if the break up is pretty bad.  Another reason is that some people tend to buy expensive and extravagant gifts during the holidays. If you end your relationship prior to the holidays, you can save both you and your about to be ex-partner a lot of money because you most likely won’t be buying gifts for each other. In addition, the holidays just turn into very sad occasions when a relationship ends during them. This is true of the days immediately before and after them.

The basic rule of thumb is to get your break up out of the way as far ahead of any special day as possible. If you can’t do that, then you should try to grin and bear it through the special day and wait at least a couple of weeks afterward before making the big break. In this way, you’re saving someone a lot of misery that could follow him well into the future. You should be kind about the timing of your break up.

The exception to this rule is if your about to be ex is cheating on you and you just found out, or he’s done something even more horrendous. In cases such as those, he DESERVES to be miserable for future special days.

Signs that Your Woman is Cheating on You

Everyone knows that men cheat all the time. It’s almost like it’s in their DNA or something. If it’s genetic, they just can’t help themselves, right?  While that’s probably a lot of nonsense, something else to consider is that women also cheat. They may not cheat quite as much as men, but they DO step out on their men for various reasons. Sometimes they’re better at hiding it than their cheating male counterparts, though. There are signs, however, that you can look for if you think your woman may be cheating on you. They include:

• Accusing YOU of cheating: This is a way of diverting the guilt from herself to you. Even worse, is if you’ve cheated on her before, she may give herself permission to get even with you by cheating. Either way, she knows what she’s done and figures that you may be doing the same thing.
• Starting to look her best when she goes out: When you notice your partner suddenly dressing to the nines when she’s supposedly going grocery shopping or to the gym, you may want to investigate why she needs to look so gorgeous.
• Telling you she needs some space: While this doesn’t always mean she’s cheating, it can mean that she wants you out of the way so she’ll be free to meet a lover.
• Hinting that she’s not happy: If your partner is telling you things like she needs more romance in her life, and that she loves things like getting flowers and love notes, you need to take her seriously. You see, if YOU don’t hear what she’s telling you, someone ELSE WILL.
• Making a new best friend that you’ve never met: In this case, it’s not so much that she’s made a new best friend and you’ve never met this friend, it’s that she’s suddenly spending lots of time with this new friend. In addition, she always has an excuse for why it’s not a good time to meet her.
• Changing her plans at the very last minute: For example, she’s gone out for a night on the town with the new best friend that you’ve never met and calls you around midnight with some excuse for why she’s just going to crash at her friend’s place for the night.
• Your friends are telling you she’s cheating: Of course you don’t want to believe something like that, and she’s told you it’s not true. However, if more than one person tells you they know she’s cheating, it’s probably true.
• Suddenly wanting to keep close tabs on you: When your woman is cheating on you, she needs to make sure that she’s not likely to run into you while she’s doing it.
• Making excuses for not having sex: This should be a huge red flag, especially if she was always raring to go in the past. Now, all of a sudden, she’s too tired, doesn’t feel well, or has the most frequent and longest periods in history.
• Has no interest in the relationship: She probably doesn’t care enough to even argue with you anymore.

You may think that these are all pretty obvious signs of cheating but you would be surprised at how many of them that men actually miss.

Dealing with Jealousy in your Relationship

The Green Eyed Monster is bound to rear its ugly head at some point in time during most relationships. Whether there’s an actual reason for it or not, it does happen from time to time. In some relationships, jealousy is present too much of the time and makes for a stressful connection between the partners in these relationships. The question surrounding jealousy is more about how to deal with it than anything else.

The first thing in dealing with jealousy in your relationship is to try to get to the root cause of it. Why is there distrust that can cause jealousy? Typically, it’s because the partner with the jealousy problem has been mistreated in a relationship in the past. This is usually because an ex has cheated on this partner and fidelity is something that he or she no longer takes for granted in a relationship.

Oddly enough, it can also come from the partner that cheated. The belief here is that if he or she is capable of cheating, then their partner could also be capable of it. Anytime there are trust issues of any kind in a relationship, there’s a huge probability that there will be jealousy within that relationship.

Insecurity is also another major root cause for a partner to be jealous. This insecurity can come from an assortment of past issues. Sometimes a person may pass through an “ugly duckling” phase before blossoming into their present day swan. Many times these people can’t move past the fact that they were once grossly overweight or had acne that covered their face. Even though they may now sport clear skin and a killer body, they look in the mirror and still see that fat, acne faced person that others used to make fun of.

Insecurity can come from other reasons, too. Nearly everyone starts out with the innocence of believing everything they’re told. This is particularly true in a relationship. Until you learn that people can and do lie, it’s easy to live in a cloud of happiness. Then one day, you catch your partner cheating on you, or you find out that he or she has been lying to you all along. That’s the beginning of the undoing of most people. They’ve learned that they trusted when they shouldn’t have. That can bring about a permanent insecurity that will be the cause of jealousy in all future relationships.

Once you learn the root cause of your jealousy, then you can begin to go about finding a way to deal with it. For example, if you’ve been cheated on in the past, look at your suspicious nature in your present relationship.  Unless your partner has given you any reason to feel that he or she has been unfaithful to you, there’s no real reason to get upset if you see them noticing an attractive individual. On the other hand, if your partner is openly staring and gawking while out with you, there’s every reason for anger, rather than jealousy.

If you find that you simply cannot move past jealous feelings even though you have no reason for it, you may want to get some counseling to help you deal with these feelings.

How Much Privacy Should Exist in Relationships?

There are many people these days that have been cheated on and betrayed in other ways by their partners. These are the partners that were supposed to love and support them. Yet, they turned out to be little more than sneaky, conniving, cheating and lying pieces of scum that really didn’t deserve what they had. Oddly enough, these same morally deficient individuals will step back and wonder exactly what happened.

If those relationships had been a bit more open, would there have been all of the sneaking around, lying and cheating going on? Maybe, because the ones that are really determined will usually find a way. On the other hand, it may not have turned out to be such a shock to the partner that was wrongly treated. They would have picked up on little hints and clues that their partner was trying to cheat on them.

People that have been mistreated in this way in relationships may find it hard to trust anyone again. For this reason, it may be a good idea to limit the amount of privacy in their next relationship. The idea behind this way of thinking is that you only need total privacy if you have something to hide. Granted, there are SOME things that everyone should have privacy for such as bathroom visits and other intimate things. However, why do you need to be hiding your email passwords from each other? Do you plan to be getting emails that you don’t want your partner to see?

Again, this doesn’t mean that you have to be peering over each other’s shoulders while reading emails. It simply means that there shouldn’t be any need for such strict privacy unless there’s something that you’re hiding from each other. The first thing that comes to mind is that one of you needs to hide online conversations with others.  At least that’s what partners that have been cheated on before may think.  This is one of the primary reasons that couples should be comfortable enough to be completely open with each other.

When you think about it, loving someone should make it unnecessary to keep too many things private from each other. The trust in a really good relationship should be of such a level that neither of you should be worried about what the other one is doing. A truly great relationship will not hold the need to keep passwords secret or other things. When you have a completely open relationship in this way, there will be no need to worry about secrets being kept on either side.

Of course, this type of relationship requires the utmost in trust, which is the sticky part of it all. Therefore, it can be rather difficult to know if you can have this type of relationship, especially when you’ve been betrayed in the past. So you’ll need to be quite careful. Of course, a certain amount of caution is needed in all relationships, especially at the beginning. So, hopefully, you’ll get to know each other to the point where you can have this type of trust. Privacy just isn’t always everything it’s cracked up to be.

Deciding If You Should Stay with Your Cheating Husband

It’s difficult to find out that your husband has cheated on you. Even more difficult is having to decide what you want to do about your marriage now that you know the truth.  The choice you make should be one that helps you heal, and sometimes that choice will also help you heal your marriage. Ask yourself the following questions to figure out if you should stay in your marriage or leave it.

• What will make you the happiest in the end? The fact that your husband was unfaithful will make this a hard question to answer because, currently, you’re hurt, angry and may even hate him a little. However, you shouldn’t focus on what you want to do immediately. Revenge probably feels pretty good at first but that’s not going to make you happiest in the long term.
• What do you think about when you look at your past with this man? Thinking about the past after you find out about the affair is perfectly normal. When you think about how the two of you were in the past, pay attention to what you’re thinking about the most. Are you focusing more on the good times you had together or the bad times? This can show you how you really feel and what you may want to do about the future of your marriage.
• Do you still love him or is it something else you feel? When you ask yourself if you still love your husband, the answer is one you should take note of. Obviously, you were in love with him when you married him but sometimes past feelings can be mistaken for current ones. Both you and your husband have changed and grown over the years. Does your husband still have some of the things you fell in love with? Are you still passionately in love with him or have you entered into a comfortable routine? Are you confusing love with a fear of the unknown or comfort? Finally, is your heart broken or just your ego?
• How is the situation affecting your family? If there are children involved, how will your choice to leave or stay affect them? Most parents try to hide bad things from their kids. However, children are more intuitive than most parents think so they’ll know if something isn’t right. If you feel that you can’t accept and forgive your husband’s cheating eventually, you’ll need to think about how healthy the environment will be for them.
• If you leave, will you be able to heal? Whether you stay with your husband or leave him, you’ll still need to heal. A lot of women find out that leaving their husbands before taking time for healing will only lead to more failed relationships in the future. You can’t avoid taking all of the trust issues, hatred and disappointment into another relationship even when the new man hasn’t done anything wrong.

Healing from the ultimate betrayal takes time, strength and perseverance no matter what your final decision. Just keep in mind that the healing is to help YOU, not your husband.  If you decide that you want to stay with your husband, a great self-help course to help you heal is How To Survive An Affair.  It’s a step-by-step system for saving your relationship after an affair, so if you decide to go this route, it’s much better than trying to do it all on your own.

Rebuilding Trust In a Relationship

Something that can single-handedly destroy any relationship is when trust is broken. This can be through lying, cheating or anything else that constitutes betrayal.

There are many ways that trust can be broken:

• Cheating, of course, is number one on the list. When one partner goes outside of the relationship and has sex with someone else, it brings about a situation in the relationship that many don’t survive.
• Lying to your partner about something important will also break trust. Your partner won’t know when you’re lying or not after that.
• Talking badly about your partner to others is disrespectful as well as trust breaking.

Once trust is broken, it can be next to impossible to rebuild. The first step is deciding how badly you want the relationship to survive. If you really want to make it work in spite of what you’ve done, you need to understand that it’s not going to be easy. You’re going to be on probation for a long time. Expect to have to explain your every move for a while. Also, don’t be late in coming home or calling when you’ve said you would be. Once you lie about something, it’s going to be difficult to convince your partner that you won’t do it anymore.

When you say you’ll be home at a certain time, it’s vital that you be there within at least 5 minutes of the set time. If you get caught in traffic or were delayed at work, you had better take a couple of minutes to call ahead of time to explain what’s going on. It may be necessary to make more than one call depending on what has caused your delay and how long you’re going to be. This may be a bit annoying but when you cheat or lie to your partner, you can expect to be making it up for a long time to come. If you want to repair your relationship, it’s not going to be easy on you and it shouldn’t be.

If your screw up was talking badly about your partner to others, assuming your partner still wants to try to work on things, the hoops that you’ll probably have to jump through may be even more irritating.

First of all, though, think about why you said the things you did about your partner. Is it possible that you really want to end the relationship and this is how you were getting that out in the open? Why would you say negative things about your partner behind their back if you really are in love with them? Yes, those are some things to think about because being talked badly about by someone that’s supposed to love you can be very hurtful.

The bottom line is that if you want to make the relationship work in spite of what you did to ruin it, there are things that you’ll need to do to rebuild that broken trust. You must be willing to toe the line for as long as it takes or walk away now.

The Grey Areas of Infidelity

If you were to look up the definition of infidelity, you would most likely come across something like “being unfaithful sexually especially to a spouse,” or “being disloyal.” Both of these are, indeed, true. When you have sex with someone other than your partner, you are definitely being unfaithful and disloyal to them. So that much is true. But what about the other ways that infidelity can occur? These are the grey areas when it comes to cheating. Some may consider these actions to be cheating but are they “technically” unfaithful actions?

By definition, being unfaithful doesn’t actually have to be by committing a sexual act with someone other than your partner. Any act that betrays your loyalty to your partner can also be considered cheating within a relationship. The grey area can become rather confusing in this way.

However, consider that infidelity means different things for various couples. That’s why you must sit down with your partner and discuss where you are in this grey area. Be clear regarding actions that you, personally, consider to be cheating. You must also find out your partner’s personal definition is of infidelity. When you’re both clear on the subject with each other, there’s no reason that this should ever become a problem.

The things that can easily fall into this grey area of cheating or not cheating include but aren’t limited to:

Pornography: This can be used to amp up your sex life if it seems to be lagging a bit. Many times viewing pornographic movies or photos together can re-ignite a flame felt to be long dead. However, it may be considered to be cheating if either of you is sneaking around and viewing this type of material alone. Keep that in mind if you feel the need to hide while you view types of porn.

Masturbation: Again, if this is something that you and your partner enjoy on a mutual basis, there’s not an issue. It also shouldn’t be an issue if one of you is indulging in this type of sexual pleasure in addition to mutually satisfying sex with each other. Sometimes it’s not possible or convenient to have sex with your partner and masturbation is certainly an acceptable option. However, if one of you is masturbating IN PLACE of having sex with your partner, then there’s a definite problem when this is preferable to enjoying your partner. In these instances, this could be considered cheating.

A Sexless Marriage:  You may feel that you have an excuse to cheat if your partner has cut you off sexually for a long time. While this is both unfair and unfortunate, it’s still not a reason to cheat. What this requires is either some serious communication and therapy to get to the root of the problem, or a divorce. A sexless marriage is not good for anyone and there’s no reason that anyone should have to endure this.

Those grey areas of cheating don’t have to be classified as infidelity; not if you’re using them as described. If you’re using them badly, it’s time to face the problem head on.

Are You SURE You Want Your Ex Back?

The time honored phrase “Your ex is an ex for a reason” is one that makes a lot more sense than people generally give it credit for. Following a break up, you may feel as if you want to die and that you’ll never find love again. Your fondest wish may be to get back together as soon as possible. However, before you go rushing off to get on your knees and beg forgiveness for a perceived wrong, take a few minutes to consider what you’re about to do.

What was the reason for the break up? Did one of you cheat? If that’s the case, it may not be so easily repaired and you may simply want to close the door on the entire relationship. When cheating is involved, even if you’re able to reconcile, the trust is destroyed and the relationship will never be what it should be. However, if that’s what happened and both of you really want to try it again, you must be ready to put the past firmly behind you.

Did the two of you just start to drift away from each other, or grow in different directions? This may or may not be resolvable. That’s up to you and your ex. Many times, though, when you go in separate directions in your lives, your relationship is just not going to work out. It may be possible to be friends at some point, but your time as lovers is most likely past.

If your relationship was characterized by violence, that’s a definite reason to end it and never look back. A violent relationship is not love. It’s hard to figure out a name to put to this type of coupling, but love doesn’t enter into it. Therefore, this is an ex that you don’t want to ever return to. This is a totally unhealthy interaction and you need something that’s more stable in order to be happy.

Relationships that brought you nothing positive are better off left buried in the past. So, even though you may THINK you want your ex back, consider carefully the reasons that you broke up. Once you’ve gone through those reasons in an honest fashion, you may be shocked at just how relieved you feel that you’re no longer having to go through these things anymore.

Sometimes it takes being OUT of a relationship to understand just how unhealthy or controlling it was for you. That’s why you need to understand that just because a relationship has ended for you, it doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily a bad thing.

Instead, it may be giving you the opportunity to get out there and find the person you were REALLY meant to be with. A wrong relationship can keep you restricted and will hinder you from finding the right relationship that has been waiting for you all along. Don’t try to force the return of an ex that may have been all wrong for you from day one. Your ex just may possibly be an ex for a reason.

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