Interracial Dating Advice

Interracial dating in the western world isn’t exactly as difficult as it used to be. While it was once frowned upon universally, those days seem to be over for the most part. There are still people that object vehemently to interracial couples as well as entire communities that totally reject this practice. However, if you happen to reside in the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom and a few other countries, you’ll find that it’s become much more common.

If you’re part of an interracial couple, though, you may be having some difficulties in being accepted. You may have some friends that aren’t comfortable with the idea. There may also be some ignorant people that will challenge you over the issues. No matter what issues you’re having with this, it’s good to know that are a few things you can do to reduce your difficulties.

For example, if some of your friends are refusing to accept your interracial relationship, you need to ask yourself if it’s even worth keeping those friends around. You may be stunned to find out that even some lifelong friends may be secretly hiding some racist tendencies that you knew nothing about. They just needed someone from another race around to bring out these tendencies. These people feel that you’ve let them down in some way by choosing to date someone of a different race.

Consider that this is not your problem to handle; it’s theirs. This is the time to make it clear that this is the person you love and they can either accept it or find some other friends. It’s important to your relationship that you avoid people that can’t or won’t accept your relationship.

Next, consider where you live. Many people from predominately white, black, Asian, or Latino communities may find it easy to forget that just because you are comfortable in those places, your partner may not be. There are some places that just won’t accept other races at all. If you plan for your biracial relationship to get serious, you may want to look for a home where being different is common and both of you can feel accepted and safe.

Finally, don’t pay attention to anyone that has an issue with your relationship. It doesn’t matter what they’re trying to say to you. Anyone that tells you that your interracial children won’t be accepted is simply telling you that your children won’t be accepted by THEM.

The greater part of the western community has begun to accept interracial couples more. Americans and Europeans aren’t the ones that are discouraging this type of dating as much as individuals and small portions of civilization that still live in the 1950s.

The bottom line is that it doesn’t really matter if you fall in love with someone that’s white, black, Hispanic, Asian, or Martian. It’s your business and no one else’s. In no way are you required to live your life so that others are happy and approve. Revel in the love for the one you want to be with.

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5 Tips to Get Rid of Dating Phobia

The idea of dating can be scary, whether you are just starting out to date or are returning to the dating scene after a many years absence.

Maybe the following things cross your mind:

1.  I wouldn’t know where to start
2.  I’m too old, no one would want to go out with me
3.  I really don’t have time to deal with all the stresses and “games” of dating
4.  I’ve never been lucky dating.  I get all “tongue-tied” and don’t know what to say
5.  I’m a loner.  I’d rather stay home and read a good book
6.  Once burned, twice shy!  I don’t want to take the chance of getting dumped again

And the list goes on.  We are really good at rationalizing our reasons for not doing something we find a challenge.

Here are five tips to help you get past some of your phobias for not dating:

1. Take some time to give SERIOUS thought to any experiences you may have had in the past that make you afraid to take the risk of dating now.  Chances are you’ll realize that the situation then is not even remotely like the situation you are living in now.  You may have been extremely young and/or the person you approached might have been tactless and naive.  You might have been more emotionally vulnerable then so the impression the “rejection” left on you might have been stronger than it warranted.  Just let go of the feelings associated with any negative dating experience, and move on.
2. Start slow.  Go to “no risk” environments where you can interact with people in a non-threatening way. For example, attend a seminar on a topic of interest to you or that is relevant to your business.
3. Go to the types of places that you are comfortable in and where you would meet people that have the same interests and values as you do.  Don’t hang out at bars or nightclubs if that is not the type of person you want to date.
4. Go to night school and take a class in something that you are really passionate about. Not only will you meet men and women who have the same interests as you, you will have something to “talk” about.
5. If you are shy or still have a problem approaching someone who you are interested in or find attractive, consider getting counseling.  A good counselor can help you get to the root of your phobia so you can move on with your life.

Like any new and worthwhile experience in life, dating can be full of uncertainties.  There is no “magic formula” for always having a positive and successful encounter, but you shouldn’t let that stop you.  Keep trying.  Remember, “nothing ventured, nothing gained.”