I Love Him but He’s a Terrible Kisser

Kissing is one of the most intimate things that two people can do with each other. It’s almost as intimate as the act of sex because you’re connected in a truly physical way, especially if you’re using your tongue. When you think about it, you can practically call it Mouth Intercourse. It’s so intimate, in fact, that there are people that will have sex with someone but won’t kiss them unless they’re in love with them.  Anyway, you get the point.

Yes, kissing is a beautiful act. However, there are a significant number of people on the earth that just don’t know how to kiss. This can, many times, be a complete turnoff for some women. They may be very attracted to a man and have all kinds of things in common with him, but the first time they kiss, he slobbers all over her face or sucks at her tongue like a vacuum cleaner. Either way, it’s not conducive to endearing him to her. The only way out of that situation is if the two of them have already formed a bond of some sort so that it’s not imperative that he knows how to kiss well.

If you’re a woman whose partner doesn’t seem to have to slightest idea of how to kiss, there are some ways to handle the situation so that it’s not a total disaster. First of all, though, you need to decide if you care enough about him to make the effort. If everything else about him is perfect, then you may want to try to see what you can do about turning his kissing into something more desirable.

Since men can be rather sensitive about such things as being told that they kiss like a Hoover, you’ll probably need to find a way to show him rather than tell him how you want to be kissed. This doesn’t have to be easier said than done, either. Pick one of those times when you’re sort of just having an impromptu make out session and play with the kissing part. If he tries to dive right in, slow him down by nibbling a bit on his bottom lip. You have to take control of the pace in order to get him to pay attention to what you’re doing.

Now, if he just refuses to follow your lead and keeps diving back in like the slobbering Hoover, you may have to tell him in words that it really turns you on to kiss slowly at first. If you can slow him down, you’re got a great chance of teaching him some new kissing techniques. Granted, he may never turn into the best kisser you’ve ever been with, but if you can get him to try out some of the new things you’re showing him, he’ll at least become more exciting as a kisser. It will also let you know that he’s open to learning new techniques, which can be applied to other parts of your love life. That’s ALWAYS handy information to have.

Dating and Hygiene

For most people, how to have proper hygiene is something they learned in health class when they were in school. They had to take tests on the subject and everything in order to pass that class. Since they had to study this topic, one would think that some of it should have stuck.

It would also seem that taking good care of your body and being clean is common sense. However, there is an amazing number of people that simply don’t find it necessary to engage in good hygiene. Whether they’re too lazy or just don’t care, it’s still a sad state of affairs when an adult just refuses to be clean.

While that’s definitely hard to understand, there’s an even odder phenomenon that seems to go along with that. These individuals that refuse to do even the basics of cleaning themselves up also find it very difficult to understand why they can’t get anyone to go out with them. That’s rather amusing as well as amazing because you would think that, at some point, they would catch onto what the problem is.

Now, just to make it easy to know what needs to be done in order to have good hygiene, following is a check list so that there will be no excuses for being dirty and smelling bad:

• Bathe regularly. Even when you think you’re not dirty, if you’re planning to go out with someone special or you’re just going out on the hunt, bathe anyway. This includes shampooing your hair. Oily hair is just not attractive.
• Use deodorant daily. Don’t assume that you’re not reeking of body odor. Seriously, just don’t take the chance.
• Brush your teeth, and gargle with mouthwash if you have any on hand. Fresh breath is a huge part of good hygiene. No one wants to kiss someone that’s too busy or lazy to brush their teeth. Smelling of onions isn’t a turn on for most people either.
• Wear clean clothes. When you’re sitting around your home by yourself, you can wear any smelly old clothes you want.  However, if you’re going out on a date with someone that you really want to impress, always wear something that looks decent and is freshly laundered.

Now, those are the basics. Add to that other things such as dressing appropriately for the locale that you’ll be going with your date. A black tie restaurant shouldn’t have you sporting jeans and a t-shirt. On the other hand, that exact outfit may work out just fine if you’re going to see a movie or playing a round of miniature golf. You need to use your best judgment and common sense with things such as that.

If you feel that you’re not such an unattractive person, yet you keep having trouble landing dates, look very closely at the above list and make doubly sure that you’ve done everything on the list. As long as you pay attention to being clean and smelling good, everything else should simply fall right into place.

Dating Safety Tips

When you talk to older people about “the good old days,” they’ll all tell you that things have really changed over the years when it comes to safety. Teens used to date by having a milk shake at the local ice cream shop, or going to a movie and having a hamburger before or after. No one worried so much about things such as date rape, kidnapping and murder because you happened to have agreed to go out with the wrong person. The biggest worries back then were not getting caught at the local Lover’s Lane or missing curfew.

These days, there are so many things to take into consideration when dating someone new. This becomes especially serious when you factor in that there is now online dating and simply carrying over an online connection into a real world meeting can have risks. There are now very real concerns when it comes to dating. This is particularly true with online dating. You should always remember that people can be whoever or whatever they want to be on the Internet. They don’t have to be truthful. The only thing they have to do is to convince someone they’re interested in that they are who they say they are.

Therefore, one of the first things you may want to do if you’re thinking about dating someone you’ve become acquainted with online is make sure that they’re who they say they are. This can be done several ways. One of them is to have them checked out through a private investigator. This is a rather reliable way of ensuring that someone isn’t trying to pull a fast one on you but it can also be rather costly. There are also online services that help you check out someone that are maybe less reliable but are more affordable and better than not checking at all.

Another method you may employ is chatting with them by webcam. In this way, you can at least see them and be able to see what they look like. If you’re good at reading people, seeing them face to face in this way may help you tell if they’re being truthful with you about who they are. Granted, this doesn’t ensure that you’re completely safe but at least you know a little more about who you’ve been chatting with.

If you do decide to meet face to face, always meet the person somewhere. Don’t be giving out directions to your home right away. This first meeting should take place in a very active location with plenty of people around.  You may also want to consider taking a friend with you the first time so that it’s clear that someone knows where you went and who you met there.

If this meeting goes well, and you feel as if you’re comfortable setting up another date, take some more precautions and make sure that your date knows you’re doing so. They may not be thrilled with your safety tactics but they should understand. If they get unreasonable about it, you have every reason to be suspicious and cut off all contact with them.

Basically, use your common sense as well as any intuition you may have, and you should be fine.

Got Psoriasis? Dating Tips To Help You Cope

CNN published another great article today that touched on the subject of dating when you have the skin condition called psoriasis.  These same dating tips can also apply just as well to many other conditions or disabilities such as depression, eczema, herpes or other STDs, loss of mobility, etc.

The beauty of online dating sites is the fact that you can get to know a person for a bit BEFORE you meet them in person for the first time.  First impressions count heavily, and you can take advantage of flattering profile pictures, chat, and messaging features on online dating sites to put your best-self out there as a great first impression.

Once you meet in person, the bottom line is that you have to emphasize your positive traits and radiate confidence and positive energy.  Smiling, good posture, and a positive attitude can do a lot for one who is trying to date while dealing with a setback of some sort.  It may be difficult to do, but you must do your best to put forth this effort so you can greatly improve your dating possibilities.

Here is the original article:  Dating Tips: Don’t Let Psoriasis Keep You at Home

Don’t Forget to Say I Love You

Many men still have problems saying what they feel unless it’s some form of anger that they’re experiencing. This is responsible for many relationship issues because, whether you like it or not, women LIKE hearing that their men care about them. Yes, that’s right, men. You’re going to HAVE to say I love you.

At this moment, you’re most likely protesting loudly that you do things like clean up after yourself, do the laundry, cook meals, and buy her things for those special occasions. In addition, you’re 100 percent faithful and never look at other women. You have a good job and do your part financially. Now, aren’t those things showing your women that you love them? Sure, it does show them. But you still have to SAY it once in a while.

That doesn’t mean that you can just respond with “Me, too” when she says “I love you.” This doesn’t cut it and you’ve probably seen that hurt look on her face more than once. Yes, you know the one and YOU caused it to be there. Does it really take anything away from you to say those three tiny words once in a while? What would you do if she were on her deathbed and said “I love you?” Would you really let her go into the great beyond with nothing from you except a “Me, too?” If you’re even considering that question, shame on you!

For those men among you that feel it’s not “manly” to say “I love you,” think again. Even those men that are huge Nascar fans, hunt for two or three weeks every season, work on cars, indulge in bodybuilding and never miss a single football game of their favorite teams find time to work in the occasional “I love you” to their wives and girlfriends. So what’s wrong with you that you can’t find it within yourself to tell the woman that’s supposed to be the most important person in your life how you feel about her?

It may be that you have intimacy issues that keep you from being able to make yourself that vulnerable to the one person on earth that you should trust the most. She must have been a very patient and understanding woman to be with you even though you never tell her you love her. Think about how much SHE must love YOU if she’s with you in spite of the fact that you don’t say “I love you.” Doesn’t she deserve to hear that from you at least sometimes?

Something else you should consider while you’re making up excuses for why you don’t say those important words is that there ARE men in the world that don’t have your paralysis. They tell their women they love them all the time! If you don’t start stepping up to the plate once in a while, your wife or girlfriend may find a man who WILL say “I love you,” and won’t keep her guessing as to how he feels. If that happens, you may wish you had spoken up.

Is He Really Who He Says He Is?

With so many couples meeting in clubs, bars and on the Internet these days, getting to know the real person you’re interested in can become a bit tricky. Most of the time, those guys you meet in bars are all cleaned up for that one night because they’re hoping to get lucky. It’s not like they ever plan to see you again after the one night stand they think they’re having with you. They can tell you anything they want and pretend it’s true.

The same thing goes for the Internet. This is even worse in many aspects because you can’t even see the person you’re talking with at first. All you have to go on is what he’s telling you about himself. Of course, there are some things that you’ll know right off make no sense. If he tells you he’s a ruler of a small, unheard of kingdom, chances are he’s lying. You’ll also find a lot of rich guys that are doubles for Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or whoever you fancy currently. When they say that, they usually don’t plan to ever meet you face to face. All they’re after is a bit of cybersex and then they’ll vanish into cyberspace.

Keep in mind that unless you’re chatting with a guy on a webcam, he could be 60 years old, 5’5”, 300 pounds, bald and married. When he tells you that he’s 6’3”, 190 pounds, 35 years old, shoulder length hair and single, that’s HIS fantasy of what he wishes he was. So, if you’re not seeing this vision in front of you via a webcam, or from across a dinner table in a restaurant, reserve your thoughts.

Now, you still can’t relax even though you may behold the most beautiful man in existence when you lay eyes on him. Yes, he may be all he said in the physical sense but you’ve still got to unearth more layers of his true personality. Even beautiful men can have some very serious character flaws. Think Kenneth Bianchi and Ted Bundy. Many women found these men to be very attractive only to be realize too late that they were about to become the latest victims of The Hillside Strangler or one of the most infamous serial killers to this day.

Before you agree to meet a new guy in person, spend lots of time chatting with him. Talk on the phone, too. Get to know him from the inside out before agreeing to meet with him face to face. Even then, don’t invite him to your home and don’t go to his for the first meeting. Make it in a very public place and take some friends along. Introduce him around to them so that he understands that people you know have his name and description. This is your safety net. Be sure to also do some checking into whether or not he’s married or in a relationship with someone. That’s easier to do than you think:  Click here to search marriage and divorce records online

Only when you’re quite sure that he’s a straight shooter and that you’re safe is when you agree to meet him. He may just turn out to be your Prince Charming.

Dress to Impress on your First Date

Everyone knows the importance of dressing nicely on a date, but some people seem to forget the importance of dressing to impress someone when they first meet them.

The old saying about first impressions is true; if you don’t make a good first impression, then chances are you won’t have a chance to make a second impression. Take your time and choose the clothes that you are going to wear. Whether you are male or female doesn’t matter. Women tend to try to look their best no matter what they are doing; men tend to wear whatever they can find.

When women go out on a date for the first time, they are trying to tell you what kind of person they are. They give men clues as to who they are by wearing certain items of clothing and accessories. She will let you know what to expect from this date if you pay attention to the way she is dressed when you meet her at her door.

If she is wearing jeans and a t-shirt, then she is looking for adventure and fun, but if wearing a nice dress and shoes, then you better have a good restaurant picked out.

Men also tell women what to expect from a date by the way they are dressed, but it’s a bit different. Men that show up in jeans and a t-shirt may be telling you that they aren’t looking to spend a lot of money and would rather go bowling or to a movie instead. If they show up in a suit, then you are looking at a guy that likes to throw money around to impress people. He may be an over achiever or he may be highly insecure about what his life is really like.

The best thing you can do is dress somewhere in between adventure and romance. If you can manage to look good, but not overly dressed, then you are sure to give the signal that you want to have fun but not at a price that will break the bank. This goes for both men and women and makes the date much more comfortable for both of you.  You shouldn’t wear too much jewelry, either. Dressing flashy may make you feel good in public but it can embarrass your date to no end. It is generally frowned upon.

Dressing nice is a good way of making a date successful, but you have to have an attitude to go along with it to make it to the second date. If you dress like a disco reject and think of yourself as a woman’s man, then she isn’t going to want a second date with you, ever.

Women, if you dress like you just got out of the club with your girlfriends, then the guy is going to think he is welcome to come in for a drink after your date, even if you don’t want him to be thinking of you like that. So, think carefully about your clothes.

How an Indoors Girl Can Successfully Date an Outdoors Man

Consider this scenario: You’re out for the evening with a group of friends and you meet the most gorgeous man you’ve ever laid eyes on. He offers to buy you a drink and you accept, happily. As the night goes on, you and this man talk about everything.

Now, he does say that he’s more of an outdoors type of guy, but you assume that means he likes long walks on the beach and picnics in the park. You assume this because that’s YOUR idea of enjoying the great outdoors. It still doesn’t sink in when he picks you up for your first date in a jeep. You just think it’s kind of cute and different.

For whatever reason, the conversation doesn’t ever get down to the specifics of what he means by being an outdoors man. So when he asks you to go away with him for the weekend, you’re thinking a nice hotel with room service, or a romantic little bed and breakfast somewhere. What HE means is a weekend of primitive camping at his favorite spot in the closest national forest. You really should have thought better of it before telling him to just “surprise” you with the location.

There are many issues involved because among other things, you’re afraid of bugs and snakes, you LIKE to bathe and you don’t pee in the bushes. Granted, this is something you should have been forthcoming about in the beginning but who knew it was going to be a problem? Of course, NOW, you really like this guy and don’t want to mess things up. So what do you do?

It’s a bit late for an open and honest talk about how you feel regarding the Great Outdoors, but it still has to be done. Be honest about your fear of bugs and snakes. Also, you’ve got to tell him that showers and bathrooms are at the top of your list when staying somewhere. Impress upon him that you never took survivalist training and never wanted to.

If you explain all of this to him in the right way, he may not get back in his cool jeep and go home. Instead, he may find it challenging to teach you everything he knows about having fun outdoors. You may even be able to talk him into starting you out in a less intensely isolated environment. If he can compromise on at least camping within walking distance of a bathroom, that’s a start. In fact, you may even find that sleeping in a tent will be fun.

Once you get in the swing of your initiation into the wild, it’s only fair that he compromises and agrees to do the hotel and/or bed and breakfast with you, too. Life is all about compromising, and if you and your outdoors man can do that, you may each find that new experiences can be just as much fun as the tried and true ones.

What Men Want in Women They Are Dating

There are plenty of debates as to what men want in the women they date and have relationships with. You probably have known some of those women that really don’t seem to be anything special but they’re never without a date, and the men they date are pretty hot.

The big question comes in what do men see in these women? Part of the answer comes with regard to the type of man that is being attracted to these women. A mature man that’s grounded on all levels will want to find a woman for a real relationship. So what does a REAL man want in a woman?

1. Real men want women that are playful. Something that drives men wild and encourages a deeper connection is simply playing. Men enjoy being playful. They were taught to connect with others through action. Sadly, most women seem to forget or not know about that and try to talk their way into a relationship. Remember, that it’s not your words that will attract a man. It’s the experiences that you make with him. Things like playing or watching sports together will get his attention must faster.

2. Real men want women that are independent. A lot of women believe that men want a “weak” woman that makes them feel powerful and smart. This couldn’t be more false. A real man wants a woman that inspires them because of the awesome things she’s got happening in her life. They want women with purpose other than just being in a relationship. Real men aren’t intimidated by success and independence. In fact, they’re drawn to it. Don’t make him your world and drop your own responsibilities, interests and friends. But when you’re with him, BE with him.

3. Real men want emotionally mature women. When you attract a man, eventually you’re going to disagree on something. A mature woman doesn’t criticize or blame a man for the way she feels. She shares her feelings honestly so that a man can understand her better. This makes her more attractive to a real man. The way a woman handles her emotions is something that men look for when deciding if they’re going to get serious or not.

4. Real men want women they’re intensely attracted to. Men aren’t afraid of committing to a relationship. They’re afraid of being stuck in a relationship with a woman where there’s no real passion. Common ways women kill men’s attraction to them is through trying too hard or assuming the relationship is serious too soon. Just relax and let things happen as they’re meant to.

If you truly want to attract a real man into your life for a relationship, be playful, independent, passionate, and emotionally mature. Keep things fun and passionate in the relationship from the very beginning.

There’s nothing more attractive to men than women that know to have fun and relax. Just do some playful teasing, humor, being unpredictable and good old fashion flirting. You’ll be amazed at how many high quality men you’ll attract in this way.

Types of Women Men Avoid

Women are very picky about the types of men they will go out with. When they spot one of these types of men, they head in the opposite direction as fast as possible. Therefore, it shouldn’t be surprising that men also have their list of women to avoid like the plague. Why not have a look and see if you fit any of these types?

Smart Asses: These are the women that have an opinion about anything and everything under the sun. Now, while most men do appreciate an intelligent and articulate woman that can offer a lively debate on different matters, they don’t want to feel that they’re in the middle of a rally for a cause all the time. Sadly, these women just can’t help themselves. They MUST spout their opinions in a very loud and vocal manner so that everyone hears them. Men don’t like to be the victims of a verbal assault nor do they like to have their intellectual weaknesses exposed for all the world to see.

Gold Diggers: This is a pretty self-explanatory term and you’ve probably known at least one or two throughout your life. Now, guys know that in the course of wooing a woman, they’re going to have to spend some money. However, with a gold digger, you’re going to find you’re expected to pay for EVERYTHING. You’re also expected to buy them presents, all kinds of expensive presents. If you happen to have some money, these are the women you need to watch out for because they’re only in love with your money and rarely with you. They’re shallow and soulless, and wouldn’t know what love is if they were slapped in the face with it.

Ms. Right: At first, this may sound like the ideal woman so why would any man want to avoid Ms. Right? These aren’t THOSE kinds of “right” women. Rather, they’re the women that truly believe they’re always right about everything under the sun. No matter what the subject, these women know more than anyone else about it and they’re always right, and heaven help you if you dare to disagree with them. Men can only take so much of a woman like this before he’s ready to lose his mind.

Psychos: A lot of men have had issues with this type of woman. These are some scary females. They will plant themselves right in the middle of your life and refuse to go away. Even when you explain to them that you’re not interested in them at all, that only convinces them that they need to try harder to get your attention. Then they start doing some really weird things like stalking you and calling you all the time. Men don’t like this type of woman.

The Rebound: A woman that’s on the rebound can also be a pretty dangerous situation to get involved in. If she’s on the rebound, she’s not ready to be with someone new. There’s a good chance that you’ll end up being hurt when she decides to drop you because you’re not her ex.

Try not to be any of these women. If you see yourself here, you may want to make some changes.

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