How to Have a Successful Long Term Relationship

A lot of people go into a new dating relationship with the hope that it will become something wonderful and last long term. They may even want it to grow into a marriage where they will start their own family. If you’re someone that’s looking for a long term relationship, there are ways that you can turn this exciting new dating relationship into just that. You just have to know how to go about turning this new relationship into something deeper and more evolved.

First of all, don’t let the excitement and newness of your relationship wear off. You know how exciting everything is when you first start dating someone new. Everything sets off sparks at first: The first time your hands touch, or your first hug, and definitely that first kiss. While you’re most likely simply infatuated with each other during this time, it’s still a white-hot phase during the relationship.  You love being together all the time and you just can’t get enough of each other.

This can be so consuming that it may not be totally healthy and you certainly can’t keep the feeling going like this forever. You would both be like meteors heading toward earth and burning out on the way. However, this is the easy part of relationships. The work comes in when you want to make it last.

Although the first stage of dating is wonderful, the next level can be even better. This is when you know each other better and your connection has solidified into something that’s very meaningful. Now it’s time to see where the relationship will go. Ask each other important questions such as : Do you both want to get married? Do you both want to have kids? Can you agree on where to live? What things do you have in common? These are all the important questions that must be answered before the relationship should go any further. You certainly don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out that you don’t agree on any of those things.

When the questions have been asked and answered, it’s time to start talking about where you want things to go next. Obviously, it’s not a good idea to rush into things. Taking the time to really get to know each other is the best way to ensure that you’re on the right path. There’s a lot to be said for long engagements even when the first thing you may want to do is marry this person. If you’re meant for each other, don’t worry because you’ll still want to get married a year later.

The only thing you need to do once you have found your soul mate is to make sure that the excitement stays in the relationship. Always have time for each other no matter what else is going on in your life. It’s also a great idea to have some time together as an official couple before bringing children into the mix. They’re wonderful little bundles of joy but they can put a huge damper on the romance in your relationship. So go slow and know what the two of you want as a couple.

The Importance of Date Night

There comes a time in every relationship when things start to become normal and routine. This is a fact of life that couples will eventually have to learn to live with, but there is something that you can do to bring back some of that excitement you felt in the beginning.

The “Date Night” is something that can turn that routine relationship back around to something unique and exciting, even if it is only once a week. This will help you and your partner reconnect on an emotional level again and it’s a lot of fun as well.

The first thing you need to do is understand that this is a “Date”.   This isn’t just you and your partner going out just to get out of the house on a Friday night. You can do that anytime you want. This is a night that you need to plan something fun and entertaining and change it up if you are able to. You don’t have to go to the same restaurant every week and then just go home and watch some TV before falling asleep. What kind of a date would that have been for you or your partner when you first met?

If you live in a place that has a decent night life or activities that you can do in the evening, then you will need to pick one that you would like to do. This is a bit more difficult in smaller towns but you can always use your imagination to find something you can do together. Think back to when you were in high school and all the things you used to do back then when you went out on dates. You will be surprised at the things you can do if you put your mind to it.

Make sure that you are doing things you both enjoy. If you are constantly picking things that only one of you enjoys, then it makes the other person bored, and that is never a good thing. Sit down and discuss all the things that you enjoy doing and find the ones that the two of you can have fun doing together. If you can’t find a couple of things you both enjoy, then choose one that one of you likes and let the other person choose one they like for the next “date night.”  It’s only fair, after all.

If you have children, you will need to make them understand that this is an important night for the two of you. You can always have a family night thrown in before “date night” and allow your children to pick what they would like to do to help them understand. This will help them realize that the two of you need to get out of the house once in a while as well and will show them what a true loving couple is like. Allowing them to see a happy couple will help them build strong and lasting relationships of their own later on in life as well.

Why Women Prefer Bad Boys Over Nice Guys

You hear the phrase over and over again, “Nice guys finish last.” While they don’t ALWAYS finish last, there’s definitely a reason that this phrase was coined in the first place. The majority of the time, women DO seem to prefer “bad boys” over nice guys, and there are reasons as to why they do. Have a look at this list to get a better idea:

• They don’t seem real: The big problem with nice guys is that they are just too nice. In fact, they’re so nice that they come off as almost saintly. No one is THAT perfect. So it actually makes you wonder a bit about a really nice guy. Bad boys do a lot better at “keeping it real.” Nice guys don’t want to cause any commotion.
• Respect: Can you really respect a doormat? Nice guys let women do whatever they want. A bad boy refuses to let women control him or walk all over him. Women have trouble respecting a man they can control. If they can’t respect him, they won’t be attracted to him.
• Nice guys are too predictable: People like to step outside of their own boring and predictable existences and experience something new and exciting. Nice guys are always predictable. There’s no challenge or excitement there. Bad boys always present a challenge.
• Nice guys don’t need fixing: Bad boys nearly always need some “work” done on them, and women do love a great project. Women set about trying to create the perfect man out of the bad boy. They feel if they can do this, that he’ll always stay with them. Besides, they don’t have to pay attention to what needs fixing with them if they’re busy fixing their bad boys.
• Afraid of intimacy: When a woman fears intimacy, subconsciously she knows she doesn’t have to deal with it when she’s with a bad boy. A nice guy eventually will want her to commit and that can be frightening.
• Low self-esteem: Some women aren’t comfortable with people that treat them better than they treat themselves. When you don’t think much of yourself, bad boys just reinforce that negative opinion. A nice guy treats you in a way you don’t understand.
• Sex is better with a bad boy: Women tend to feel that nice guys aren’t going to be good at having sex. Sometimes women just like to be manhandled a bit and feel that nice guys can’t take control in the bedroom. Bad boys leave no doubt that they can run the show even when it’s not true.
• Bad boys are hot: Rarely do you come across bad boys that aren’t hot. There are some, but not that many. If they weren’t hot, they couldn’t get by with all the stuff they do. On the other hand, when a woman says someone is a nice guy, she actually sometimes may mean that he’s not hot.

It may be a bit clearer now as to why nice guys have to work a bit harder when it comes to getting the women of their dreams. Guys need to loosen up a bit and try being that bad boy for a change.