Dress to Impress on your First Date

Everyone knows the importance of dressing nicely on a date, but some people seem to forget the importance of dressing to impress someone when they first meet them.

The old saying about first impressions is true; if you don’t make a good first impression, then chances are you won’t have a chance to make a second impression. Take your time and choose the clothes that you are going to wear. Whether you are male or female doesn’t matter. Women tend to try to look their best no matter what they are doing; men tend to wear whatever they can find.

When women go out on a date for the first time, they are trying to tell you what kind of person they are. They give men clues as to who they are by wearing certain items of clothing and accessories. She will let you know what to expect from this date if you pay attention to the way she is dressed when you meet her at her door.

If she is wearing jeans and a t-shirt, then she is looking for adventure and fun, but if wearing a nice dress and shoes, then you better have a good restaurant picked out.

Men also tell women what to expect from a date by the way they are dressed, but it’s a bit different. Men that show up in jeans and a t-shirt may be telling you that they aren’t looking to spend a lot of money and would rather go bowling or to a movie instead. If they show up in a suit, then you are looking at a guy that likes to throw money around to impress people. He may be an over achiever or he may be highly insecure about what his life is really like.

The best thing you can do is dress somewhere in between adventure and romance. If you can manage to look good, but not overly dressed, then you are sure to give the signal that you want to have fun but not at a price that will break the bank. This goes for both men and women and makes the date much more comfortable for both of you.  You shouldn’t wear too much jewelry, either. Dressing flashy may make you feel good in public but it can embarrass your date to no end. It is generally frowned upon.

Dressing nice is a good way of making a date successful, but you have to have an attitude to go along with it to make it to the second date. If you dress like a disco reject and think of yourself as a woman’s man, then she isn’t going to want a second date with you, ever.

Women, if you dress like you just got out of the club with your girlfriends, then the guy is going to think he is welcome to come in for a drink after your date, even if you don’t want him to be thinking of you like that. So, think carefully about your clothes.

Why Doesn’t He Call After A Great Date?

Nearly every woman has gone through this scenario: You go out with a new guy and have an absolutely amazing time. It seems that you have everything in common and the chemistry is off the charts. After spending the evening together at dinner and a movie, or a club, he takes you home and you invite him in. Whether you sleep with him or not, there’s at least a lot of making out. By the time he goes home, you’re certain you’ve just found your Mr. Right. The next day you wait and wait for your phone to ring. It rings, but it’s never him. In fact, you never see or hear from him again. What happened?

Well, the truth of the matter is that, in spite of the fun you had, the two of you obviously weren’t on the same page. That doesn’t mean that he didn’t have fun with you and that he didn’t like you. It simply means that he didn’t view it from the same standpoint that you did. For whatever reason, he wasn’t that into you after all.

This can happen for many reasons. He may have already had someone else in his life that he was MORE interested in and you were just a distraction. Maybe he had the attention span of a 3 year old that loses interest in a new toy after a few hours of playing with it.  Whatever it was, just understand that if he hasn’t called you in 3 weeks, he’s not going to. Chances are he DID NOT end up in a coma from a car wreck or something. He just isn’t interested in you that way.

This means that you need to forget about him and move on.   Don’t text him saying you haven’t heard from him in a while. He either won’t text you back or, worse, he won’t even remember who you are. Just because you had a good make out session doesn’t mean much more to him than good, adult fun. It means that the two of you viewed that evening in totally different ways. Everyone has different agendas and you shouldn’t be shocked to find out that this guy’s was different from yours.

If you find that you overreact to every cute guy you kiss not calling you back, you may want to stop kissing so many of them. Save it for the one that really DOES seem to be on the same page as you. Typically, first dates don’t end up with a trip to the alter, and you really may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. As long as you understand that, you’ll find it a lot easier to deal with all of the guys that simply don’t call you back.

The one thing that IS important for you to remember is that when you do have a great night with a guy and you feel a mutual chemistry, if he calls you back the next day, he really may be Mr. Right.

Date Ideas For Your First Date

First dates are exciting and awkward at the same time. You’re hoping to be swept off your feet and taken to some exotic place, preferably flown there by private jet just for dinner.

He’s merely trying to find a restaurant that you’ll like since he has no idea about your food preferences. For all he knows, you’re a vegetarian and you won’t enjoy his favorite steak house.
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How to Get Out of a Bad Date

You look out the window as his sleek, luxury car pulls into your driveway. During that casual encounter at a mutual friend’s party, you didn’t really memorize every detail about him.

As you watch him walk up the path to your door, you notice that he is tall, well dressed and looks promising. In fact, he looks so good that you ditch the old dress and pull out something a bit more chic.
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First Date Tips

Here’s a quick and simple list of first date tips:

First Date Do’s:

Be Yourself - Be on your best behavior, certainly, but don’t be anyone but you. While you don’t want to say you’re single when you’re legally separated, you don’t need to say that you bite your nails when you’re nervous, and you get nervous at the dentist. Leaving that little fear of dentists thing out doesn’t make you a liar. It just makes you someone who is honest but putting her or his best foot forward. Tell a few things about yourself – true things – that show your good, sweet, tender and honest side. Leave your phobias for later.

Listen To Your Date – Don’t hog the conversation! That will make you look rude and self-absorbed. The primary reason you don’t hog the conversation, however, is because this first (and possibly only) date is the first chance to get to know this lovely creature sitting next to you or across the table from you. If you monopolize the conversation what will you have learned? And chances are you’ll ruin any chance of learning more later.

Try to Relax and Enjoy Yourself – Fun should be a first date rule! Forget about finding your life partner, forget about trying to look and act like the great charmer. Just enjoy this time. The worst that could happen is you don’t hit it off and you won’t have lost much except a few hours at most.

First Date Don’ts:

Do Not Pretend to be Someone or Something That You’re Not – This is a big one. Two things happen if you do. First, you are discovered to be a liar, then or later, and you lose the relationship. Second, you aren’t discovered to be a liar and you’re in a relationship where you aren’t allowed to be yourself. Ultimately you will lose this relationship as well. Imagine pretending to be a non-smoker and fighting the urge to puff away on your first date. What if the date goes well? What if you continue the relationship? You’ll be forced to go cold turkey with those nasty cigs or to out yourself and be branded a liar – which may end up losing the relationship anyway.

Don’t Make Snap Judgments About Someone You Meet on a First Date – (Unless they’re so unattractive you feel nauseated or so boorish and crazy that you fear for your life or sanity being near them). Relax, give her or him a few dates to let their guard down and show their true self. If you still don’t see what you want to see after that, then end it and move on.

Don’t Leave Him or Her Hanging, Wondering if She or He Will Ever See You Again at the End of the First Date – Say, “I had a great time. Let’s do this again.” If you don’t want to see him or her, say, “It was a pleasure meeting you. I had a nice time, but I don’t feel that we have the right chemistry/match/connection. I’m sure you’ll find the right one soon enough – good luck on your search.” Make yourself clear. Why waste time?