Things You Shouldn’t Do After You’re Married

Most women agree that being single can be a great part of life. You have the freedom to do what you want when you want without having to answer to anyone. While marriage is usually a happy and blissful state of being, there are some boundaries and rules that come along with it.

Besides the obvious one of not having sex with other people, there are some other things you shouldn’t do once you’re married that are not as obvious. Have a look at some of them:

• You can no longer get falling down drunk: This doesn’t look too hot on a single woman, but to do it when you’re married is totally inappropriate. There’s nothing classy about staggering out of a club while your two girlfriends try holding you up. Use your bachelorette party to tie on your last one.
• Pajama parties with the girls are now out: When you’re single, it’s ok to stay out as late as you want with your girl pals. You can even have pajama parties when it’s too late to go home. When you’re married, you’ve got a husband and a house to take care of. Being out late with the girls should only happen for special events now. Besides, if you like being away from home and your husband that much, something’s wrong.
• When you go out, leave the video model clothes at home: A married woman isn’t meant to appear skanky. She can be as sexy as she wants as long as it’s in a classy way.  She wants to make her husband proud, not make him her pimp.
• Dinner dates with other men should be out: Even for business reasons, this is a bit inappropriate. If you need to meet for business or your best guy friend in the world wants some quality time with you, lunch is a better option.
• No networking after 10PM: Everyone networks for professional reasons and it is fine for you to take part—up to a point. When the event turns social, it’s time for you to go home where you have a husband waiting.
• Now you need to pay bills instead of splurge on shoes: When you’re single, it is fine for you to sacrifice things so you can have something that you really want. However, when you‘re married, it’s now “we” instead of “I.”  If you don’t pay your bills, it can have a negative effect on both you and your partner.
• There’s little more that’s grosser than drinking from the carton: When you’re married, you’re most likely sharing the contents of that carton with your partner.
• Start closing the bathroom door: There’s another person living with you now so you may want to keep some things private. If you’re both THAT comfortable with going to the bathroom with the door open, there’s nothing WRONG with it. It’s just kind of un-sexy. There really are some things that need to be done secretly and this is definitely one of them.

Consider that you’re married now and there’s a certain decorum that you’ll need to follow. It doesn’t make you boring but it should make you more mature.

How to Tell If He Likes You or Thinks of You as Just Friends

Many times, women develop crushes or totally fall in love with their male best friends. Since it’s very possible that your friend adores you on some level, at the same time, he would probably be shocked to find out that you had feelings for him that went beyond those of friendship.

Therefore, it’s better to have an idea of how he really feels for you before professing your undying love for him. There are some simple ways to tell if you should keep quiet and find a real boyfriend or not.  Here are some examples:

• It’s funny to him every time his parents ask when the two of you are going to start dating for real.
• He asks you to be his “plus 1” date for a wedding because he can’t find a “real” date to go with him.
• He tends to come to you for relationship advice.
• If you go to see a movie together, he likes to keep an empty seat between you so that you’ll both have more space.
• He asks for your help in editing his profile for an online dating site.
• He calls you by your last name a lot, just like the buddy you are.
• When you wear a low cut top, he never even notices your cleavage.
• He introduces you as his best friend or his sister.
• He finds one of your girlfriends hot and asks you to set him up with her.
• His bathroom habits are an open book to you and he doesn’t try to hide anything from you.
• He’s constantly checking out other girls right in front of you.
• He makes sure that pictures of the two of you on social networking sites don’t lead to the impression that you’re together.
• He gets a brand new puppy and honors you by naming it after you.

As you can see, these are pretty obvious ways to tell that he’s not sharing your feelings of a romantic love and a chance of a real relationship. If you’re experiencing any or all of these signs with your guy friend, chances are you won’t be choosing a wedding dress anytime soon. In fact, it’s probably better if you just keep your feelings to yourself and maybe keep your distance from him for a while until you can get control of your feelings.

Now, if you’re looking at this list and thinking that those signs don’t mean anything, that he could still fall in love with you, certainly it can happen. But usually it doesn’t happen off of the big silver screen or one of those chick flick Lifetime movies.

However, if you’re so determined that you won’t know the true answer until you tell him how you feel, go for it. Just be prepared for him to be really uncomfortable and to feel kind of awful yourself. It’s truly better to kind of hint around at things in this situation rather than come fully clean and speaking from the heart. In that way, no one gets embarrassed and your friendship is still intact.