Interracial Dating
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As little as 40 years ago, interracial dating was illegal and viewed very negatively. Sadly, closed minded individuals made interracial dating and marriage very hard for those that fell in love with someone of another race.
Fortunately, interracial dating has progressed quite a bit since that horrible period. There are still groups of people that find biracial relationships distasteful but it really doesn’t make any difference in the long run. People can love and marry whomever they want even though there are still some issues to deal with.
One of the biggest obstacles that interracial couples must overcome is family disapproval. It doesn’t happen as often as it used to as people have become more accepting of interracial relationships. However, there’s still the chance that one or both families won’t approve of the relationship. This can be devastating to the couple when it happens as love is something that’s supposed to be wonderful and happy. Of course, they want their families to share in their excitement and happiness. Instead, they feel hurt and alone.
These family members can often be the couples’ grandparents or parents that disapprove because of the era they were raised in. Grandparents, especially, may have been brought up during the years when biracial couples were looked down on. If you’re in this sort of situation, try to remember that you have to live your life no matter what your family thinks.
Should their close mindedness make you too miserable, or if they decide that you must choose between the family and your love, you cannot feel bad if you decide to choose happiness with your partner over the selfishness of your family. They should be supporting you. If they aren’t, you can try family counseling if they’re willing but most people suffering from racism can’t be convinced that they’re wrong.
Something that many interracial couples do is actively seek out the company of other biracial couples or gay/lesbian couples. Many of these couples have also experienced rejection in some form or another and know exactly what you’re going through. This can help you to relax and have fun while giving you a completely new group of friends to hang out with. This group will welcome you and be happy for you and your relationship.
In fact, if you need it, these new friends can be a huge source of support for you if you must deal with disapproval from your family members or society in general. The more you hang out with other interracial or gay/lesbian couples, the more comfortable you’ll feel in your own relationship and what others say or think just won’t be important to you any longer.
There are even online support groups for interracial couples. This is often a great way to meet other couples near you. Finding one of these support groups and hearing how others handle the different obstacles is a really good way to deal with any problems you might be facing.
If you haven’t done so already, be sure to check out some of the other interracial dating tips we have posted in the past on this blog.
While it can be hard to handle the views of ignorant people, you still have to remain strong and live your own life. Since interracial relationships can be difficult due to pressure from other people, there may be various issues to deal with. However, try to live your life and do what makes you happy. You’ll be able to move past any of these problems.
Interracial Dating Advice
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Interracial dating in the western world isn’t exactly as difficult as it used to be. While it was once frowned upon universally, those days seem to be over for the most part. There are still people that object vehemently to interracial couples as well as entire communities that totally reject this practice. However, if you happen to reside in the United States, Canada, the United Kingdom and a few other countries, you’ll find that it’s become much more common.
If you’re part of an interracial couple, though, you may be having some difficulties in being accepted. You may have some friends that aren’t comfortable with the idea. There may also be some ignorant people that will challenge you over the issues. No matter what issues you’re having with this, it’s good to know that are a few things you can do to reduce your difficulties.
For example, if some of your friends are refusing to accept your interracial relationship, you need to ask yourself if it’s even worth keeping those friends around. You may be stunned to find out that even some lifelong friends may be secretly hiding some racist tendencies that you knew nothing about. They just needed someone from another race around to bring out these tendencies. These people feel that you’ve let them down in some way by choosing to date someone of a different race.
Consider that this is not your problem to handle; it’s theirs. This is the time to make it clear that this is the person you love and they can either accept it or find some other friends. It’s important to your relationship that you avoid people that can’t or won’t accept your relationship.
Next, consider where you live. Many people from predominately white, black, Asian, or Latino communities may find it easy to forget that just because you are comfortable in those places, your partner may not be. There are some places that just won’t accept other races at all. If you plan for your biracial relationship to get serious, you may want to look for a home where being different is common and both of you can feel accepted and safe.
Finally, don’t pay attention to anyone that has an issue with your relationship. It doesn’t matter what they’re trying to say to you. Anyone that tells you that your interracial children won’t be accepted is simply telling you that your children won’t be accepted by THEM.
The greater part of the western community has begun to accept interracial couples more. Americans and Europeans aren’t the ones that are discouraging this type of dating as much as individuals and small portions of civilization that still live in the 1950s.
The bottom line is that it doesn’t really matter if you fall in love with someone that’s white, black, Hispanic, Asian, or Martian. It’s your business and no one else’s. In no way are you required to live your life so that others are happy and approve. Revel in the love for the one you want to be with.
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Interracial Dating Tips – Don’t Hide Your Love
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Many interracial couples feel that they need to keep their love and their relationship hidden due to the many prejudices that still seem to hang around these days. This is something that can be so hard to do. It can also go a long way in ruining what can possibly be something so beautiful if only you didn’t feel you needed to hide it.
There will always be people that aren’t going to approve of the way you live your life. So what? It is YOUR life and not theirs, and is really none of their business what you do. As long as you’re not hurting yourself or others, you should be left in peace to enjoy the love that you’ve found. However, sadly, many times that’s not the way things work and you’ll have to learn how to blow off the ignorance of some people.
Too often, these people are members of your own family. These are the ones that should be encouraging you to be happy in your life and in your relationship. It’s very hard for you to realize that your own flesh and blood are willing to stand in your way and risk losing you just to have what THEY feel is best and most appropriate. It’s a sad situation when this happens.
In spite of all of that, when you truly love someone, and are happiest when you are with that person, you must have the courage to come out in the open, and show off how happy you are. You need to let others in on the secret love that you’re sharing with a very special person, whether this person is of a different race than you or not. Love is meant to enjoyed and reveled in.
Don’t let people discourage you from feeling the happiness that you know is different from anything you’ve ever experienced in your life. If it’s your friends that are being critical, find some new friends. You may need to even give your family members the chance to be a part of your life or not. Just remember that people with your best interests at heart are the ones that will be as happy for you as you are for yourself.
Obviously, if you’re involved with a potential serial killer or chronic bank robber, someone SHOULD talk you out of it. However, when your love is simply someone that has a different heritage than you, there’s no reason for anyone to be unaccepting of it. Self-centered people that only care about what they want aren’t those you should listen to. They just want you to do what they see as right. Deep down, they don’t really care about you and your happiness.
Therefore, bring your love out into the open and proclaim your feelings from the highest rooftops. When you find someone to love and who returns your love, even if that person is of another race than you, it’s something to celebrate. Don’t hide your love because you fear what others will say and think. In the end, it really doesn’t matter.
Living Happily in an Interracial Relationship
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When two people come together in a loving relationship, it’s a wonderful and beautiful event. This is true even for couples in interracial relationships. Two people from different races and cultures can just as easily fall in love with each other in the same way that couples of the same races and cultures fall in love. They’re attracted to each other physically, mentally, and emotionally. These couples talk, laugh, kiss and make love just as any couple of the same race do. There should be nothing in the way of these interracial couples being together.
In most countries, there are no legal reasons to keep these couples apart. However, even in some of the countries that have no laws against biracial couples, there are plenty of prejudicial reasons that these couples have a very hard time being happy together. This is very sad, as it can keep a couple that has every reason otherwise to be happy from enjoying each other and their life together to the fullest.
So, the question becomes: How do interracial couples manage to live together happily?
Believe it or not, this is possible and is done all the time. A lot of it comes from the mindset of the couples. This means that they have made the decision to love each other and enjoy their time together to the fullest. While these couples may feel the occasional sting of nasty and unfair remarks made by ignorant people, they don’t let it dictate the way they live their lives together. Instead, they choose to let it pass and put it down to the stupidity behind it. In fact, many of these couples choose to also feel sorry for the closed minds that produce such drivel.
This is the perfect way to deal with such things. Simply focus on each other and how much love there is in your relationship. Nothing else matters but the two of you and the life you have together. People that can successfully do this can be just as happy as couples from the same race or culture.
Many times, if it’s possible, biracial couples will decide to relocate to places where they are more accepted. This can’t always be done due to work and family obligations, but when it is something that can be worked out, many times it will make life easier and even happier.
However, if you’re in an interracial relationship, there’s no need to leave everything you know and love just to be happy. Your relationship needs to be the center of your life together as a couple. Learn to toughen up when you see people staring at you in public, or worse yet, when you overhear remarks made at your expense. As long as you and your partner truly love each other, there’s no reason to let others ruin the happiness that you’ve come to know with your partner. No one should have that much power over your life, whether they are relatives or total strangers.
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Surviving Interracial Relationship Tension During the Holidays
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People all over the world look forward to the holidays and getting together with family and friends to celebrate together. Interracial couples are certainly no different. They decorate, shop for gifts, plan family dinners and parties just like everyone else.
Unfortunately, in some families there may exist a certain amount of tension during these gatherings due to how some family members may feel about interracial relationships. This tension is due to the fact that not everyone in the family is happy with or agrees with interracial couples being together. The same can also be said for many gay or lesbian couples as well.
While it is quite astonishing that there’s still such ignorance in the world that breeds the belief that the color of one’s skin is harmful to others, it’s necessary to understand there are still people who actually hold these beliefs.
Therefore, if the love of your life is of a different race than you, it may be challenging in some ways but you can actually make it through the holidays by preparing ahead of time. It’s especially important that you keep this tension to a minimum if you have children. They should not be allowed to be exposed to and damaged by the ignorance of others.
How do you still enjoy the holidays with your family when they so clearly don’t approve of the very thing that’s made you happier than you’ve ever been in your life?
There’s no easy answer to this question. However, there are some things that you can try to do to ease some of this tension. You need to put these into practice ahead of time so the stage is set by the time everyone is gathered at your home. This way, there will be no surprises and everyone understands upfront how things will work.
First of all, make note of all the people on either side of your families that have any issues with your relationship. It doesn’t matter who they are or how they’re related to you and your partner. If they have a problem with your relationship, consider taking them off the guest list. There’s no need to invite difficulty into your home when you’re trying to enjoy a happy time of the year. Granted, this could be a difficult choice for you if it’s a parent or grandparent that objects to your relationship. But, as sad as that is, think about how the gathering would be affected by rude comments or unnecessary negativity coming from this person throughout the entire event.
Suppose one side of the family objects to your relationship and the other one does not. You can choose to have only the accepting family attend a holiday gathering at your home.
It’s also possible for just one of you to spend some time with the side of the family that objects, but that’s sending the wrong message. If you’re a couple, then you want to present a united front telling everyone that if they can’t accept you as a couple, then they don’t need to accept just one of you at all.
The bottom line is that obviously, if there’s an issue of disapproval, you’ll want to keep that out of your holiday celebrations. No matter what others may think or feel, your relationship is just as valid as everyone else’s and you both deserve to be respected and to be free to build lasting and happy holiday memories. It may come down to making some hard decisions to enable this, but you’ll feel better in the long run.