Interracial Dating

As little as 40 years ago, interracial dating was illegal and viewed very negatively. Sadly, closed minded individuals made interracial dating and marriage very hard for those that fell in love with someone of another race.

Fortunately, interracial dating has progressed quite a bit since that horrible period. There are still groups of people that find biracial relationships distasteful but it really doesn’t make any difference in the long run. People can love and marry whomever they want even though there are still some issues to deal with.

One of the biggest obstacles that interracial couples must overcome is family disapproval. It doesn’t happen as often as it used to as people have become more accepting of interracial relationships. However, there’s still the chance that one or both families won’t approve of the relationship. This can be devastating to the couple when it happens as love is something that’s supposed to be wonderful and happy. Of course, they want their families to share in their excitement and happiness. Instead, they feel hurt and alone.

These family members can often be the couples’ grandparents or parents that disapprove because of the era they were raised in. Grandparents, especially, may have been brought up during the years when biracial couples were looked down on. If you’re in this sort of situation, try to remember that you have to live your life no matter what your family thinks.

Should their close mindedness make you too miserable, or if they decide that you must choose between the family and your love, you cannot feel bad if you decide to choose happiness with your partner over the selfishness of your family. They should be supporting you. If they aren’t, you can try family counseling if they’re willing but most people suffering from racism can’t be convinced that they’re wrong.

Something that many interracial couples do is actively seek out the company of other biracial couples or gay/lesbian couples. Many of these couples have also experienced rejection in some form or another and know exactly what you’re going through.  This can help you to relax and have fun while giving you a completely new group of friends to hang out with. This group will welcome you and be happy for you and your relationship.

In fact, if you need it, these new friends can be a huge source of support for you if you must deal with disapproval from your family members or society in general. The more you hang out with other interracial or gay/lesbian couples, the more comfortable you’ll feel in your own relationship and what others say or think just won’t be important to you any longer.

There are even online support groups for interracial couples. This is often a great way to meet other couples near you. Finding one of these support groups and hearing how others handle the different obstacles is a really good way to deal with any problems you might be facing.

If you haven’t done so already, be sure to check out some of the other interracial dating tips we have posted in the past on this blog.

While it can be hard to handle the views of ignorant people, you still have to remain strong and live your own life. Since interracial relationships can be difficult due to pressure from other people, there may be various issues to deal with. However, try to live your life and do what makes you happy. You’ll be able to move past any of these problems.

Guess Who MIGHT Be Coming to Dinner

In 1967, a very controversial movie called “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner” was released to an unsuspecting public. This movie, starring Spencer Tracy, Katherine Hepburn and Sidney Poitier, was about a white couple with very rigid attitudes whose daughter brings home a black fiancé. It couldn’t have been a more challenging era to release a movie of this type with so many racial issues going on throughout the country. Yet, it was a very popular movie, even winning 2 Oscars and nominated for 8 more. The movie is credited by many for opening doors to people in interracial relationships.

The only problem is that bringing your interracial partner to dinner at the home of your racist parents is quite possibly the most terrible idea of them all. Consider this: You’ve told your family all about this incredible new love of yours. They know how wonderful this person is, how well you’re treated, how smart and funny your new love is. However, there’s one tiny little detail that you’ve left out. You’ve left out this piece of information because you know how your parents will react. That tiny detail is the fact that your partner is of a different race that you are.

Now take this scenario a bit further. When you arrive with your partner, you get a less than warm reception. This can range anywhere from a lukewarm hello to a screaming match that ends up with your partner being thrown out of the house. Can you truthfully think of a better way to RUIN a great dinner?

This is why you don’t ever need to make a family dinner the setting of the introduction of your interracial lover to your intolerant family. Who is going to enjoy the meal? Will anyone even EAT? Of course, you may want to have a few bottles of wine on hand so that people can relax, and maybe put out a few appetizers to help soak up that alcohol. However, a full-fledged meal is NOT the way to go.

Plan anything else that will not require you to try to eat. A stressful meeting such as this will go much better when there’s no food involved. If the initial meeting goes well, then a nice lunch or dinner the next day can work out great. It’s just much better if you don’t start out the first meeting with food that needs to be ingested. All that will happen is a lot of indigestion and, if things go really bad, a possible food fight can take place.

Those are just a few of the reasons that dinner is a bad idea when you’re bringing home your interracial partner for the first time. If you feel that there’s even the small chance that your family will violently and vocally object to your new relationship, plan something a little shorter and less nausea causing to make that first introduction. You’ll be very relieved that you chose to do things a bit differently than is traditional.

Living Happily in an Interracial Relationship

When two people come together in a loving relationship, it’s a wonderful and beautiful event. This is true even for couples in interracial relationships. Two people from different races and cultures can just as easily fall in love with each other in the same way that couples of the same races and cultures fall in love. They’re attracted to each other physically, mentally, and emotionally. These couples talk, laugh, kiss and make love just as any couple of the same race do. There should be nothing in the way of these interracial couples being together.

In most countries, there are no legal reasons to keep these couples apart. However, even in some of the countries that have no laws against biracial couples, there are plenty of prejudicial reasons that these couples have a very hard time being happy together. This is very sad, as it can keep a couple that has every reason otherwise to be happy from enjoying each other and their life together to the fullest.

So, the question becomes: How do interracial couples manage to live together happily?

Believe it or not, this is possible and is done all the time. A lot of it comes from the mindset of the couples. This means that they have made the decision to love each other and enjoy their time together to the fullest. While these couples may feel the occasional sting of nasty and unfair remarks made by ignorant people, they don’t let it dictate the way they live their lives together. Instead, they choose to let it pass and put it down to the stupidity behind it. In fact, many of these couples choose to also feel sorry for the closed minds that produce such drivel.

This is the perfect way to deal with such things. Simply focus on each other and how much love there is in your relationship. Nothing else matters but the two of you and the life you have together. People that can successfully do this can be just as happy as couples from the same race or culture.

Many times, if it’s possible, biracial couples will decide to relocate to places where they are more accepted. This can’t always be done due to work and family obligations, but when it is something that can be worked out, many times it will make life easier and even happier.

However, if you’re in an interracial relationship, there’s no need to leave everything you know and love just to be happy.   Your relationship needs to be the center of your life together as a couple. Learn to toughen up when you see people staring at you in public, or worse yet, when you overhear remarks made at your expense. As long as you and your partner truly love each other, there’s no reason to let others ruin the happiness that you’ve come to know with your partner. No one should have that much power over your life, whether they are relatives or total strangers.

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Surviving Interracial Relationship Tension During the Holidays

People all over the world look forward to the holidays and getting together with family and friends to celebrate together. Interracial couples are certainly no different. They decorate, shop for gifts, plan family dinners and parties just like everyone else.

Unfortunately, in some families there may exist a certain amount of tension during these gatherings due to how some family members may feel about interracial relationships.  This tension is due to the fact that not everyone in the family is happy with or agrees with interracial couples being together.  The same can also be said for many gay or lesbian couples as well.

While it is quite astonishing that there’s still such ignorance in the world that breeds the belief that the color of one’s skin is harmful to others, it’s necessary to understand there are still people who actually hold these beliefs.

Therefore, if the love of your life is of a different race than you, it may be challenging in some ways but you can actually make it through the holidays by preparing ahead of time. It’s especially important that you keep this tension to a minimum if you have children. They should not be allowed to be exposed to and damaged by the ignorance of others.

How do you still enjoy the holidays with your family when they so clearly don’t approve of the very thing that’s made you happier than you’ve ever been in your life?

There’s no easy answer to this question. However, there are some things that you can try to do to ease some of this tension. You need to put these into practice ahead of time so the stage is set by the time everyone is gathered at your home. This way, there will be no surprises and everyone understands upfront how things will work.

First of all, make note of all the people on either side of your families that have any issues with your relationship. It doesn’t matter who they are or how they’re related to you and your partner. If they have a problem with your relationship, consider taking them off the guest list. There’s no need to invite difficulty into your home when you’re trying to enjoy a happy time of the year. Granted, this could be a difficult choice for you if it’s a parent or grandparent that objects to your relationship. But, as sad as that is, think about how the gathering would be affected by rude comments or unnecessary negativity coming from this person throughout the entire event.

Suppose one side of the family objects to your relationship and the other one does not. You can choose to have only the accepting family attend a holiday gathering at your home.

It’s also possible for just one of you to spend some time with the side of the family that objects, but that’s sending the wrong message. If you’re a couple, then you want to present a united front telling everyone that if they can’t accept you as a couple, then they don’t need to accept just one of you at all.

The bottom line is that obviously, if there’s an issue of disapproval, you’ll want to keep that out of your holiday celebrations.  No matter what others may think or feel, your relationship is just as valid as everyone else’s and you both deserve to be respected and to be free to build lasting and happy holiday memories.  It may come down to making some hard decisions to enable this, but you’ll feel better in the long run.