Sometimes You Have to Relocate to Find Your True Love

Being gay or lesbian still has a bit of a stigma when you live in certain parts of the country. Small towns are particularly difficult in most locations. In cities and towns that still carry many prejudices, there aren’t a lot of avenues for gay people to connect and form any bonds or relationships with each other. In many cases, when there ARE plenty of gay people in the local population, there are still certain ones that just cannot seem to find that right person for them. This is a very difficult dilemma to be in.

Sometimes the only solution to this problem is to find a new location to move to. It doesn’t have to be very far away from your family and friends. The new place also doesn’t have to be in a big city.  The best thing to do is to settle on a part of the country that you want to live in and then do some research about the gay population and policies in that area. If you find that there’s a decent acceptance of the gay lifestyle, and that there are many groups there that you have something in common with, it may be just the place for you to move to.

Another way to go about deciding on the best place to move is to talk to other friends that live in areas where gay and lesbian people are made to feel comfortable and a part of the community.  If you don’t already know anyone in the particular city you’re thinking of moving to, you can easily meet new people or make new friends via online gay and lesbian dating sites such as AllGayDating.com or AllLesbianDating.com.  These are the best people to fill you in on what you can expect in different areas. When you find the ideal place to move, it’s time to send out some searches for homes to rent or buy and set up everything so that you can go start your new life.

The point in moving is that many times it does take a change of scenery in order to be appreciated. Most of the time, you’ll find that you’re quite popular because you ARE the new person in town. Everyone will want to get to know you and a lot of those people will want to date you. It’s perfectly understandable how this can happen. Once people travel in the same circles over and over again, they get bored with seeing the same people all the time. They need to have new people in their midst so that they can form new connections and have more chances to become romantically involved.

When you move to a new location, seek out people that you have something  in common with and that you feel drawn to. These are the ones that you’ll find that are easier to form relationships with. Once you allow yourself to get to know the people in your new home, it won’t be long before you’ve found the perfect partner for yourself.  Don’t miss out on the chance for a very happy relationship just because you don’t want to move from a certain place. Sometimes that’s just what it takes to find the person you’re meant to be with.

Dating Tip For Lesbians Who Are Shy

It’s hard enough maintaining a day-to-day life as a lesbian, but when you’re trying to meet someone for a romantic relationship, it can be even more difficult when you’re also shy. Heterosexual men also have this problem when trying to meet women, but it seems to somehow be worse when you’re a lesbian. For one thing, you don’t always know whether or not another woman is gay unless you meet her under circumstances where there is no doubt. These can be such places as gay/lesbian bars, through friends, or other lesbian activities.

Being in these situations will give you an edge, but it won’t help you much if you can’t get past your shyness. Another term for this type of shyness is approach anxiety. This refers to the debilitating shyness that can take you over when you see an attractive woman that you really want to talk to but simply cannot bring yourself to approach her. This is what you must work to get past because once you do, there are so many new doors that will open themselves to you in the game of meeting new women to date.

First, you’ve got to start doing an exercise that will guide you along the way to getting to the point where you can easily approach women whether you know them or not. The first way to do this is by saying hello to strangers. Do this all the time to everyone wherever you are. Say hello whether they look at you or not and even if you don’t know if they’ll respond back. It doesn’t matter. You’re taking the lead in speaking to someone you don’t know.  It’s excellent practice.

Stop waiting for other people you know to come up to you and say hello. You make the first move and walk up to THEM. Go out of your way to do this. Don’t stop and think about whether to do it or not. Just get up and go say hello. Again, this is great practice for coming out of your shell.

Something else you can do is to linger and talk to people that you usually just say hi to. Make small talk with them for a few minutes. There have to be people in your life that you’ve known for years, and yet, you’ve never had a real conversation with. These are the people you can practice with. Start a conversation with them and participate equally in it.

Now, take all that you’ve learned through these little exercises and go to your favorite lesbian bar or club. Go in and order yourself a drink to enjoy while you visually scope out the room. This time will be different because when you spot that attractive woman you would really like to get to know better, you won’t be hiding in the corner feeling sad because you know you’ll never get the chance. This time, you’re going to go up to her, introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink. This will be the beginning of the end of you going home alone.

If bars or nightclubs are not your idea of a fun time, you can always join a lesbian dating site.  Many of them are free to join and you can check out the features of the site before you decide to upgrade your membership.  AllLesbianDating.com is one such site that gives you a wide range of free features you can use as you search their vast lesbian membership base for the perfect woman for you.

Make Your Lesbian Relationship Work

Some women find that being in a lesbian relationship is one of the hardest things they’ve ever attempted. For others, it’s pretty simple and natural. In reality, if you’ve come out of the closet or are still hiding in that far back corner of it, it doesn’t matter. The basics are still the same as with a relationship between a straight couple.

A lesbian relationship still involves 2 people with 2 different personalities. Lesbians don’t just hold hands or do baking together. Just because you’re a lesbian, it won’t increase or decrease your chances of being hurt, feeling depressed or being affected by affairs.

That’s right; a lesbian relationship is a lot like a straight one. The one thing that’s different is society’s pressure on the gay community overall. Granted, straight couples don’t have to endure that unless they’re biracial. A lesbian relationship has ups and downs, just as a straight one does. These are dealt with similarly.

To begin with, it’s not easy being a lesbian. In fact, there are some countries that even ban gay relationships altogether. In the countries that are more democratic, lesbian couples are still fighting for their rights. So, if you and your partner happen to reside in a country that outlaws a public show of affection between gay couples, don’t push this particular envelope. It’s only going to hurt your feelings when you reach for your lover’s hand and she rejects it. That will cause an issue in the relationship.

Many times when your relationship is still new, it’s easy to forget that you’re not the only ones in love on the planet. You can’t get enough of each other. However, eventually that excessive fire is going to burn out a bit and you’ll feel more comfortable than excited with each other. Keep some of that spark alive or you’ll risk becoming bored in your relationship.

Don’t treat your lover as if she’s your best friend only. Treat her romantically as you would your true love. This keeps the love alive as well as the spark.

You and your girlfriend should not withdraw from society on a whole. Don’t try to make the world believe that lesbians are exclusive. Go out and meet other people of all persuasions. Socialize with straight and bisexual people as well as other lesbians. This adds a bit of newness to the relationship and will also work to keep the excitement alive between the 2 of you. Getting out and having fun together with others goes a long way to keeping the relationship fun.

Last, but not least, you and your partner should both have the freedom to be yourselves. Don’t try to change each other. There was something about her that attracted you to your girlfriend initially, and she to you. Why would you want to change any of that? You each need some space for your own personal life as well. In the end, it doesn’t matter how many more gorgeous women are in the world. You and she have committed to each other and that’s what is important.

Bringing Your Gay Lover Home to Meet the Family

Nothing is better than finally meeting the partner of your dreams after you’ve firmly and completely come out of the closet. Families are usually split about half and half these days when it comes to how they react to being told that their son or daughter is gay. Some families are very supportive of their child’s lifestyle while others are hurt, angry and in denial.

Sadly, many people lose their families over their sexual orientation. For those that still have their families in their lives, there will come a day when you’ll want to bring home your lover to meet them. The only reason that this can be a bit different than any straight person introducing the love of his or her life to the family is because there are so many varied degrees of acceptance that a family can be at.

First of all, if you have a supportive and loving family that wants only your happiness, you’ll have an easy time of it when bringing home your lover for the first time. All you’ll need to do is to call your family well ahead of time so that they can prepare. This is no different from a straight person preparing to bring home a lover. You’re just being considerate in case there’s any cleaning or cooking that your family wants to do before your arrival. When you and your partner arrive, introduce him or her to your family and allow them some time to get acquainted.

If you’ve only recently come out to your family and they’re still grappling with the news, you may need to tread a bit lightly. Make a date for you and your partner to meet with your family ahead of time. This gives you a chance to gauge how your family really is taking the news of your lifestyle. If you feel safer on your own territory, host a lunch or dinner at your home. In this way, you give your family an escape route if they start feeling uncomfortable. Keep things light and don’t be overly affectionate with your partner until everyone has adjusted.

For families that simply refuse to accept who you are, there’s not a lot you can do. In fact, you probably don’t want to subject someone you love to the treatment that he or she will most likely receive at the hands of homophobic family members. Tell your partner about your family. Show him or her photos and tell stories about your childhood. Let your partner get acquainted with your family through your words. In that way, if your family ever turns around and decides to love you and accept you unconditionally, your partner will at least be somewhat familiar with them.

Families are meant to be important. However, if your family cannot seem to accept you and your newfound happiness, you may need to move forward in your life without them as a part of it. It’s not your fault. You deserve to be happy. If they can’t be happy with you, they don’t truly love you. Move on with your partner.