Things You Shouldn’t Do After You’re Married

Most women agree that being single can be a great part of life. You have the freedom to do what you want when you want without having to answer to anyone. While marriage is usually a happy and blissful state of being, there are some boundaries and rules that come along with it.

Besides the obvious one of not having sex with other people, there are some other things you shouldn’t do once you’re married that are not as obvious. Have a look at some of them:

• You can no longer get falling down drunk: This doesn’t look too hot on a single woman, but to do it when you’re married is totally inappropriate. There’s nothing classy about staggering out of a club while your two girlfriends try holding you up. Use your bachelorette party to tie on your last one.
• Pajama parties with the girls are now out: When you’re single, it’s ok to stay out as late as you want with your girl pals. You can even have pajama parties when it’s too late to go home. When you’re married, you’ve got a husband and a house to take care of. Being out late with the girls should only happen for special events now. Besides, if you like being away from home and your husband that much, something’s wrong.
• When you go out, leave the video model clothes at home: A married woman isn’t meant to appear skanky. She can be as sexy as she wants as long as it’s in a classy way.  She wants to make her husband proud, not make him her pimp.
• Dinner dates with other men should be out: Even for business reasons, this is a bit inappropriate. If you need to meet for business or your best guy friend in the world wants some quality time with you, lunch is a better option.
• No networking after 10PM: Everyone networks for professional reasons and it is fine for you to take part—up to a point. When the event turns social, it’s time for you to go home where you have a husband waiting.
• Now you need to pay bills instead of splurge on shoes: When you’re single, it is fine for you to sacrifice things so you can have something that you really want. However, when you‘re married, it’s now “we” instead of “I.”  If you don’t pay your bills, it can have a negative effect on both you and your partner.
• There’s little more that’s grosser than drinking from the carton: When you’re married, you’re most likely sharing the contents of that carton with your partner.
• Start closing the bathroom door: There’s another person living with you now so you may want to keep some things private. If you’re both THAT comfortable with going to the bathroom with the door open, there’s nothing WRONG with it. It’s just kind of un-sexy. There really are some things that need to be done secretly and this is definitely one of them.

Consider that you’re married now and there’s a certain decorum that you’ll need to follow. It doesn’t make you boring but it should make you more mature.

Is Dating Married Women A Good Idea?

By some estimates, as many as 15% of married women will have an affair at some point during their marriage. That works out to approximately 4.5 million women in the United States alone. What this means is that there is a real possibility that you will have a chance of dating married women at one time or another. Here are some things to think about before you decide whether or not to do it.

One of the things men seem to like about dating married women is the physical passion that is often present. Perhaps the woman isn’t being satisfied, and has now turned to you to fulfill her needs. This may be great for a few nights of lustful passion, but there won’t be any real emotional attachment. Some guys love the idea of all of the romance without any of the feelings, but what they don’t realize is that the physical aspect is so much better when true feelings are being shared.

“We’re getting a divorce.” I have a friend who has dated a married woman for more than ten years now, and she is still telling him that she and her husband are on the verge of getting a divorce. The papers have been filed, not filed, misplaced, refiled, almost finalized, retracted, but they are still married. What’s going on? People often feel it’s immoral to date somebody who’s married, but if they are “going through a divorce”, then they can justify it by saying the woman isn’t “really” married.

This isn’t meant to scare you, but you should know that a lot of murders are the result of “love triangles”. These crimes of passion happen quickly; often without warning. What happens is you think things are going fine, that her husband doesn’t know anything, but then the wife confesses what she has done, or the husband finds out in some other way. In reality, they should only be mad at the person who has done them wrong, but the anger and jealously can quickly bubble over and get out of control. Now, that’s not to suggest that dating married women will make you the victim of a murder, but you should know that it is a risk; no matter how remote.

There is another thing to consider before dating married women, and that is your motivation. What is it that attracts you to married women? Is it a feeling of control, or a lack of control? Does it make you feel better than her husband in some way? Is it out of anger? Is it the thrill? Whatever your motivation, ask yourself if it could be satisfied by dating the right single women. If not, then you may need counseling to see if there are deeper issues.

Whether or not you decide to start dating married women is, ultimately, up to you. You need to consider several different things. It is better to be informed before deciding, and the above points should help you to make a better decision.