How to Have a Successful Long Term Relationship

A lot of people go into a new dating relationship with the hope that it will become something wonderful and last long term. They may even want it to grow into a marriage where they will start their own family. If you’re someone that’s looking for a long term relationship, there are ways that you can turn this exciting new dating relationship into just that. You just have to know how to go about turning this new relationship into something deeper and more evolved.

First of all, don’t let the excitement and newness of your relationship wear off. You know how exciting everything is when you first start dating someone new. Everything sets off sparks at first: The first time your hands touch, or your first hug, and definitely that first kiss. While you’re most likely simply infatuated with each other during this time, it’s still a white-hot phase during the relationship.  You love being together all the time and you just can’t get enough of each other.

This can be so consuming that it may not be totally healthy and you certainly can’t keep the feeling going like this forever. You would both be like meteors heading toward earth and burning out on the way. However, this is the easy part of relationships. The work comes in when you want to make it last.

Although the first stage of dating is wonderful, the next level can be even better. This is when you know each other better and your connection has solidified into something that’s very meaningful. Now it’s time to see where the relationship will go. Ask each other important questions such as : Do you both want to get married? Do you both want to have kids? Can you agree on where to live? What things do you have in common? These are all the important questions that must be answered before the relationship should go any further. You certainly don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out that you don’t agree on any of those things.

When the questions have been asked and answered, it’s time to start talking about where you want things to go next. Obviously, it’s not a good idea to rush into things. Taking the time to really get to know each other is the best way to ensure that you’re on the right path. There’s a lot to be said for long engagements even when the first thing you may want to do is marry this person. If you’re meant for each other, don’t worry because you’ll still want to get married a year later.

The only thing you need to do once you have found your soul mate is to make sure that the excitement stays in the relationship. Always have time for each other no matter what else is going on in your life. It’s also a great idea to have some time together as an official couple before bringing children into the mix. They’re wonderful little bundles of joy but they can put a huge damper on the romance in your relationship. So go slow and know what the two of you want as a couple.

Tips for Keeping the Relationship Spark Alive

Everyone knows how challenging that marriage and relationships in general can be. That’s why all couples can use a little help from time to time on how to keep things passionate, alive and new. There are some ways to do this that make it a bit easier. Have a look at these tips and suggestions to see what works best for you:

• Don’t let the newness go out of your relationship: The longer that couples are together, the more they tend to forget that they are a couple first and spouses, significant others, and parents second. You must put forth some effort to keep things feeling new. Don’t ever forget that a relationship grows into a friendship of sorts. That’s why you should start out as friends, stay friends, and become and stay lovers.
• Understand that you can’t change your significant other: Too many times, people go into a relationship thinking they can change the other person into what THEY want them to be. Anyone that starts out a relationship that way is doomed to fail. Each individual must WANT to grow and change on their own. All you can control is how YOU act or react to any issues that come up.
• Make yourself someone they can respect and love in the long term: Way too often, when the courtship part of a relationship ends, men will stop putting as much effort into making themselves attractive to their women. That’s bad but, even worse, is that women let this happen. This can be fixed by men continuing to put forth effort into the relationship and women not allowing the men to only half-assed try.
• Your strength, self-esteem and individuality need to stay up front and center at all times: Two people make up a relationship. These people each have their own needs and desires that exist within and without the relationship. It’s vital that they keep their own desires and interests at the forefront of their minds. Compromise in a relationship is good but only if you’re not compromising the person you are and what you really want in your life.
• Never just settle for anything: If your partner refuses to grow along with you or address the needs that both of you have, never just settle for what you have. Life is too short to lead a bland existence. Your partner should be someone that cherishes you and enjoys you rather than feeling you’re a duty or obligation.
• Keep the sex great and inventive: Sex isn’t just a physical form of release. It’s also a true closeness; the ideal sharing of passion with each other. These sexual encounters can be as romantic, as passionate or as kinky as each couple prefers. However, it IS critical that these interactions take place on a regular basis. It allows you to both be open, trusting and vulnerable in a way that’s important to having a healthy sex life.

The important thing to remember is to never let passion slip away. Passion is both in and out of the bedroom.