As a Gay Man Are You Just “Settling?”

When many gay men first decide to come out as who they really are, they’re a bit hesitant about approaching the men that they want to get to know better. Instead, when they go out to have some fun and meet guys that they aren’t all that interested in, they’ll still hook up with them. They feel it’s better to settle for what they can get even if it’s not exactly what they truly want. If this describes you, it needs to stop right now!

Depending on how long you’ve known you are attracted to men, you may or may not have a “type” that you’re more drawn to than others. If you know what you like, don’t just settle for what doesn’t attract you. It’s not fair to you nor is it fair to the guy that’s interested in you. On the other hand, if you have no clue exactly what sort of man you want to be in your life, you’ll have to spend some time with the process of elimination. This doesn’t have to be cruel, either. You just need to put yourself out there where you’re sure to meet other gay men so that you can scope out what’s available to you.

Start by finding an image that represents your “ideal” man. It can be a movie star, a model, or even a porn star. Then grade these images on a scale of 1 to 10 in terms of how attractive or hot you find each one. Next, you’re going to choose a private location, such as your bedroom, and tape your final choice of the ideal man for you to a full length mirror. Now, assign a grade to your own attractiveness by using the same 1 to 10 scale. Make the comparison between your reflection and the picture.

This is an exercise that serves as a reality check to help you to keep your desires and expectations in line with the type of man that you can realistically expect to attract. It also works to help you increase your own scores by doing some self-improvement techniques. This includes working on your physical appearance and other presentation areas. As your personal scores improve, so will your self-esteem and give you the confidence to go out and find that perfect man for you.

Now, doesn’t that sound a lot better than just settling for men that really don’t do anything for you? It may not be as immediate as just going out and going home with some guy, but this way can bring about a more permanent relationship into your life. Besides, you need to be the best you can be, anyway, and this is a great way of reaching your full potential.

Just remember that everyone has something to work with. You may not have what it takes to land a celebrity, but then how many guys REALLY have that potential unless they’re in that world? You’ll find who you want in your life and be a lot happier.   You can start meeting sincere, single gay men at online dating sites such as All Gay Dating – Click here to meet gay men today!

Why Women Prefer Bad Boys Over Nice Guys

You hear the phrase over and over again, “Nice guys finish last.” While they don’t ALWAYS finish last, there’s definitely a reason that this phrase was coined in the first place. The majority of the time, women DO seem to prefer “bad boys” over nice guys, and there are reasons as to why they do. Have a look at this list to get a better idea:

• They don’t seem real: The big problem with nice guys is that they are just too nice. In fact, they’re so nice that they come off as almost saintly. No one is THAT perfect. So it actually makes you wonder a bit about a really nice guy. Bad boys do a lot better at “keeping it real.” Nice guys don’t want to cause any commotion.
• Respect: Can you really respect a doormat? Nice guys let women do whatever they want. A bad boy refuses to let women control him or walk all over him. Women have trouble respecting a man they can control. If they can’t respect him, they won’t be attracted to him.
• Nice guys are too predictable: People like to step outside of their own boring and predictable existences and experience something new and exciting. Nice guys are always predictable. There’s no challenge or excitement there. Bad boys always present a challenge.
• Nice guys don’t need fixing: Bad boys nearly always need some “work” done on them, and women do love a great project. Women set about trying to create the perfect man out of the bad boy. They feel if they can do this, that he’ll always stay with them. Besides, they don’t have to pay attention to what needs fixing with them if they’re busy fixing their bad boys.
• Afraid of intimacy: When a woman fears intimacy, subconsciously she knows she doesn’t have to deal with it when she’s with a bad boy. A nice guy eventually will want her to commit and that can be frightening.
• Low self-esteem: Some women aren’t comfortable with people that treat them better than they treat themselves. When you don’t think much of yourself, bad boys just reinforce that negative opinion. A nice guy treats you in a way you don’t understand.
• Sex is better with a bad boy: Women tend to feel that nice guys aren’t going to be good at having sex. Sometimes women just like to be manhandled a bit and feel that nice guys can’t take control in the bedroom. Bad boys leave no doubt that they can run the show even when it’s not true.
• Bad boys are hot: Rarely do you come across bad boys that aren’t hot. There are some, but not that many. If they weren’t hot, they couldn’t get by with all the stuff they do. On the other hand, when a woman says someone is a nice guy, she actually sometimes may mean that he’s not hot.

It may be a bit clearer now as to why nice guys have to work a bit harder when it comes to getting the women of their dreams. Guys need to loosen up a bit and try being that bad boy for a change.