Beautiful and Alone

Many times you may remember seeing absolutely gorgeous women sitting alone in a bar. You may have known physically flawless women that rarely had a date on the weekends. While it may not make sense, it’s definitely true that many beautiful women spend a large portion of their lives alone. Once you dig into this phenomena a bit, though, you’ll start to see why it happens more than people think.

For one thing, and this is very common, lots of men are intimidated by women that are just incredibly stunning. This intimidation leads them to believe that these women would never give them a second glance. They don’t want to be shot down so they end up not ever approaching the women of their dreams. Instead, they just keep watching from afar and fantasizing about what it would be like to date them.

Something else about beautiful women is that some of them are assumed to be very self-centered and, therefore, will only date certain types of men. They don’t want to be seen with the ordinary guys. In other words, if a man doesn’t have lots of money and a hot car, they shouldn’t even approach women like this. They will definitely be shot down. Now, this isn’t to say that ALL beautiful women are self-centered. There are ordinary looking women that can be just as self-centered, although one might wonder why they feel they deserve to be.

The point is, even if you feel that you’re a less than ordinary man, you should always give the beautiful women a chance. Very often, a gorgeous woman would love to be approached by an intelligent man with a great sense of humor even if he doesn’t look like the stereotypical movie star. Many times, as long as that man is clean, neat and smells nice, a beautiful woman would be more than pleased to spend time with him.

So, if that man sounds a bit like you, why are you not approaching that beautiful woman sitting all alone at the bar nursing a drink and looking ever so lonely? Unless you look like the Elephant Man and have the personality of a cave man, she just may welcome your company. But that’s not something you’ll ever know unless you try it. Sure, there’s a chance that she may not be interested and blow you off, but there’s at least a fifty percent chance that she’ll smile at you and accept a drink from you.

Now, if she does turn out to be one of those women that has ice water pumping through her veins and isn’t interested unless you’re a millionaire driving a Maserati, at least you’ll understand why she’s sitting in a bar drinking alone. However, if you get your feet wet, so to speak, the next time you might not be so nervous about approaching a great looking woman. After all, once you’ve been shot down, you’ll know how it feels and will know that it can’t kill you.

Besides, if nothing else, you may be starting the relationship of your dreams. If not, you might at least make a really wonderful friend.

Is Your Partner Reliable?

It seems that so many men these days just aren’t reliable, even when in a relationship. There are so many things now that work to distract them. For instance, more and more relationships are ending due to the amount of time that men spend playing video games or computer games. Then there’s the myriad of sports events that are covered by ESPN and if you’re with a sports fanatic, you may as well plan on being alone when the different seasons begin.

Unless you’re also a sports fanatic or love to play video games, you’re going to want to move in another direction because, for you, it’s going to be necessary to be in a relationship with someone that’s reliable. As hard as it may be to face, these types of men are rarely going to be reliable when it means that they’ll need to be away from their sports events or video games. That’s why you must pay close attention while you’re still in the early stages of dating.

A lot of men, in fact most of them, will not show tons of interest in the things that consume their lives otherwise after they first meet someone that they’re interested in. So, it will be up to you to spot whatever you can that tells you a bit about his life. If you spot every video game console made hanging around in his house, chances are that he didn’t buy them simply for decorations. You’ll probably find that he’s also got a pretty impressive collection of games for each of these consoles, too.

Something else you’ll probably want to check is what television channels that he subscribes to. If you see that his guide lists all of the ESPN channels, you’re probably dating a huge sports fanatic. He’s most likely just keeping this part of his personality under wraps until he has you sufficiently baited, hooked and reeled in. He’s probably had issues in other relationships because of all of the avid attachment to video games and sports. So he already knows that it’s going to be a problem.

If you see enough things that have you filled with questions, now is the time to ask those questions and get your answers. The last thing you want to do is get involved with someone that will stand you over in a corner while he spends all of his time slaying virtual dragons and pretending that he’s a football star. This type of man typically has you feeling alone more than anything else.

Think carefully before you get seriously involved with someone that will always let everything else get in the way of things you may need from him. You’ll spend a life of taking care of yourself when you’re sick, forgotten birthdays and anniversaries, and being stood up for important events in your life. It’s much easier to be with someone that’s actually involved in the relationship, too. This is someone that you’ll be able to count in to be there when you need him.

Opposites Really DO Attract

Several years, singer/dancer/choreographer and American Idol judge, Paula Abdul had a little hit song called “Opposites Attract.”  The whimsical video that was filmed for the song showed Paula as being in love with a cartoon animal, thus the theme of opposites being attracted to each other. It was all very cute and the song was very popular. However, there was a much deeper meaning rooted in this song and it carried a very real truth.

This truth is that people with opposite personality types can, and do, attract each other all the time. Not only that, but these relationships seem to be some of the most successful ones on record. What does this say about the theory that all couples should have many things in common?  Actually, it doesn’t  say anything at all about that. Rather, this shows that people of different personality types can complement each other by tempering the more radical parts of their partner’s personality as well as livening up the more sedate and even boring portions. That’s when it works the best.

Obviously, commonality is a huge factor when it comes to making a relationship work out successfully. When people have some things in common, they’ll always have something to talk about and do together. It gives them a chance to bond over something and that connection will always be there. However, there’s also the matter of a couple having TOO much in common with each other. That’s when opposites can make for a much livelier and more interesting relationship.

Couples with opposite personalities can many times enjoy much more active relationships with each other than if they had a lot of things in common. Sometimes it takes just the right amount of commonality and differences to make a relationship all it should be.

However, there can be some couples that really are so opposite that it’s amazing that they ever got together in the first place. Yet, you can tell just how happy they are in the way they look at and interact each other. They’re clearly perfect with each other.

That’s why you should never discount someone just because they don’t think exactly the way you do. They may actually provide the fodder for lively debates between you. Words can be some of the strongest and most effective foreplay that you’ll find anywhere, and when you’re forced into using them, you may find that this person who is nothing like you is one of the most exciting people you’ve ever met in your life. Let that feeling take hold and use the mental stimulation you get from arguing your point of view.

That can be just the beginning for you and your new friend. When you allow yourself to think outside of the box and let this new person into your life, it may be one of the most amazing events you’ve ever experienced. Enjoy your encounter with this opposite personality and see where it takes you. It’s very possible that this is the person meant to take you down the path you’ve always wanted to travel.

Is He Really Who He Says He Is?

With so many couples meeting in clubs, bars and on the Internet these days, getting to know the real person you’re interested in can become a bit tricky. Most of the time, those guys you meet in bars are all cleaned up for that one night because they’re hoping to get lucky. It’s not like they ever plan to see you again after the one night stand they think they’re having with you. They can tell you anything they want and pretend it’s true.

The same thing goes for the Internet. This is even worse in many aspects because you can’t even see the person you’re talking with at first. All you have to go on is what he’s telling you about himself. Of course, there are some things that you’ll know right off make no sense. If he tells you he’s a ruler of a small, unheard of kingdom, chances are he’s lying. You’ll also find a lot of rich guys that are doubles for Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or whoever you fancy currently. When they say that, they usually don’t plan to ever meet you face to face. All they’re after is a bit of cybersex and then they’ll vanish into cyberspace.

Keep in mind that unless you’re chatting with a guy on a webcam, he could be 60 years old, 5’5”, 300 pounds, bald and married. When he tells you that he’s 6’3”, 190 pounds, 35 years old, shoulder length hair and single, that’s HIS fantasy of what he wishes he was. So, if you’re not seeing this vision in front of you via a webcam, or from across a dinner table in a restaurant, reserve your thoughts.

Now, you still can’t relax even though you may behold the most beautiful man in existence when you lay eyes on him. Yes, he may be all he said in the physical sense but you’ve still got to unearth more layers of his true personality. Even beautiful men can have some very serious character flaws. Think Kenneth Bianchi and Ted Bundy. Many women found these men to be very attractive only to be realize too late that they were about to become the latest victims of The Hillside Strangler or one of the most infamous serial killers to this day.

Before you agree to meet a new guy in person, spend lots of time chatting with him. Talk on the phone, too. Get to know him from the inside out before agreeing to meet with him face to face. Even then, don’t invite him to your home and don’t go to his for the first meeting. Make it in a very public place and take some friends along. Introduce him around to them so that he understands that people you know have his name and description. This is your safety net. Be sure to also do some checking into whether or not he’s married or in a relationship with someone. That’s easier to do than you think:  Click here to search marriage and divorce records online

Only when you’re quite sure that he’s a straight shooter and that you’re safe is when you agree to meet him. He may just turn out to be your Prince Charming.

Personality Plus: Beauty is Only Skin Deep

Just about everyone is familiar with the old joke about a guy telling his friend that his girlfriend wants to set him up with a friend of hers. The friend asks what the friend of the girlfriend looks like. The guy’s friend says “She’s got a GREAT personality.” His friend looks at him and says “So she’s a dog, huh?” While that’s a very rude and disrespectful joke, it seems to have become the basis that all blind dates are founded upon. So what does that say about someone with a great personality?

There are much fewer physically beautiful people in the world than there are normal, or ordinary, people. That lessens the odds that you’ll actually hook up with one of these physically perfect individuals. However, there are many attractive people in the world that you have a good chance of meeting and having a relationship. A good number of THOSE people are going to have engaging personalities that enhance their physical appearance even more.

Nearly everyone has known a few people at some point in their lives that are plain, and some that are even vastly unattractive. However, they have such amazing energy and personalities that they appear to be much more attractive than they actually are. These people are in high demand by others. People want to be around them, date them, and be involved with them, in any way that will allow them to be in the sphere of these lovely individuals. What is it that makes these people so popular and sought after?

Surprisingly enough, it’s their personalities.

The kind of person that someone IS nearly always means more in the end than what someone LOOKS like. It’s true that beauty really is only skin deep in many cases. Beautiful people don’t always have beautiful personalities. This is something that becomes evident very early upon meeting these people. Vanity isn’t an attractive quality and neither is snobbery.

A lot of beautiful people tend to believe that they should only be around OTHER physically beautiful people. These individuals are actually doing the rest of the world of normal people a huge favor by believing that. This avoids a lot of hurt feelings and insults among those people that are considered ordinary.

Something that is very important in a person is having a great personality. In fact, it’s difficult to fathom how you can truly love someone that’s devoid of humanity, no matter how beautiful they appear on the outside. If these people are ugly on the inside, they’re hideous on the outside. Physical perfection does little to fully hide a horrible personality once you get to know the person.

This is something you really should think about the next time someone tries to set you up on a date with a person with a good personality. No, that person may not be winning any beauty contests, but if they’re good hearted, funny, and smart, you shouldn’t write them off simply because they’re not physically perfect. You may find yourself in love before you know it.