Plus Size Relationships

Television has many commercials these days advertising companies and websites that help you meet the right person. These commercials typically employ actors that are gorgeous meeting other gorgeous actors and falling in love with them. You can’t really say that these are realistic examples of the people that live in the world these days! With the obesity rate clearly on the rise today, there are more and more plus size couples emerging all the time.  Many have found plus size dating sites a great way to meet each other.

Clearly, even though there are many plus size people in the world, everything is still geared mostly toward thin and beautiful people. You won’t find a lot of advice columns targeting the plus size couple. In fact, it seems to be taboo to think about larger couples engaging in intimate acts with each other. So, it’s going to be hard to find sex advice for these couples.  If this fits you, have a look at the following tips to spice things up for plus size couples:

• Be realistic: While there are lots of fun and entertaining ideas to enhance your sex life, many of them just aren’t possible for plus size people to pull off. There are, however, plenty of lingerie shops that cater to larger women. You’ll find lots of these online and most of them offer you discreet shipping right to your front door. Look for those shops rather than the usual ones that only carry sizes 0 – 12. They’re easy to find. This is also true of the sex help books on the market. Stay realistic about what you and your partner can and can’t do.
• Stay comfortable: Don’t give in to the pressure to perform, especially when you know the limitations of each other. Having sex should be about love and pleasure rather than pain and agony. If you’re doing something sexually that hurts or isn’t comfortable, you have to share that with your partner. The only pain that you should have in your relationship is something that both of you agree on.
• Concentrate on each other: What society thinks of you being together shouldn’t matter. There’s really nothing that says two plus size people can’t enjoy each other sexually just like any other couple. Instead of being anxious over public opinion, concentrate on the one you love. Find out what makes you both happy and do that.

• Ignore conventionality: Most people think of intimacy as only being about sex. This is far from the truth. You can be intimate without being sexual. There’s no rule that you have to have sex in order to be intimate. You can do this in other ways. Don’t feel forced to have sex until you’re totally ready for it.

Yes, it’s true that there are disadvantages to being a plus size couple. However, as long you’re honest, realistic and open with each other, there’s no reason why your relationship can’t have as much romance and passion as a “normal” size couple. Do things together that create intimacy and build a relationship that’s solid. This helps you enjoy having someone special to spend your life with.

The Grey Areas of Infidelity

If you were to look up the definition of infidelity, you would most likely come across something like “being unfaithful sexually especially to a spouse,” or “being disloyal.” Both of these are, indeed, true. When you have sex with someone other than your partner, you are definitely being unfaithful and disloyal to them. So that much is true. But what about the other ways that infidelity can occur? These are the grey areas when it comes to cheating. Some may consider these actions to be cheating but are they “technically” unfaithful actions?

By definition, being unfaithful doesn’t actually have to be by committing a sexual act with someone other than your partner. Any act that betrays your loyalty to your partner can also be considered cheating within a relationship. The grey area can become rather confusing in this way.

However, consider that infidelity means different things for various couples. That’s why you must sit down with your partner and discuss where you are in this grey area. Be clear regarding actions that you, personally, consider to be cheating. You must also find out your partner’s personal definition is of infidelity. When you’re both clear on the subject with each other, there’s no reason that this should ever become a problem.

The things that can easily fall into this grey area of cheating or not cheating include but aren’t limited to:

Pornography: This can be used to amp up your sex life if it seems to be lagging a bit. Many times viewing pornographic movies or photos together can re-ignite a flame felt to be long dead. However, it may be considered to be cheating if either of you is sneaking around and viewing this type of material alone. Keep that in mind if you feel the need to hide while you view types of porn.

Masturbation: Again, if this is something that you and your partner enjoy on a mutual basis, there’s not an issue. It also shouldn’t be an issue if one of you is indulging in this type of sexual pleasure in addition to mutually satisfying sex with each other. Sometimes it’s not possible or convenient to have sex with your partner and masturbation is certainly an acceptable option. However, if one of you is masturbating IN PLACE of having sex with your partner, then there’s a definite problem when this is preferable to enjoying your partner. In these instances, this could be considered cheating.

A Sexless Marriage:  You may feel that you have an excuse to cheat if your partner has cut you off sexually for a long time. While this is both unfair and unfortunate, it’s still not a reason to cheat. What this requires is either some serious communication and therapy to get to the root of the problem, or a divorce. A sexless marriage is not good for anyone and there’s no reason that anyone should have to endure this.

Those grey areas of cheating don’t have to be classified as infidelity; not if you’re using them as described. If you’re using them badly, it’s time to face the problem head on.