Dating Tip For Lesbians Who Are Shy

It’s hard enough maintaining a day-to-day life as a lesbian, but when you’re trying to meet someone for a romantic relationship, it can be even more difficult when you’re also shy. Heterosexual men also have this problem when trying to meet women, but it seems to somehow be worse when you’re a lesbian. For one thing, you don’t always know whether or not another woman is gay unless you meet her under circumstances where there is no doubt. These can be such places as gay/lesbian bars, through friends, or other lesbian activities.

Being in these situations will give you an edge, but it won’t help you much if you can’t get past your shyness. Another term for this type of shyness is approach anxiety. This refers to the debilitating shyness that can take you over when you see an attractive woman that you really want to talk to but simply cannot bring yourself to approach her. This is what you must work to get past because once you do, there are so many new doors that will open themselves to you in the game of meeting new women to date.

First, you’ve got to start doing an exercise that will guide you along the way to getting to the point where you can easily approach women whether you know them or not. The first way to do this is by saying hello to strangers. Do this all the time to everyone wherever you are. Say hello whether they look at you or not and even if you don’t know if they’ll respond back. It doesn’t matter. You’re taking the lead in speaking to someone you don’t know.  It’s excellent practice.

Stop waiting for other people you know to come up to you and say hello. You make the first move and walk up to THEM. Go out of your way to do this. Don’t stop and think about whether to do it or not. Just get up and go say hello. Again, this is great practice for coming out of your shell.

Something else you can do is to linger and talk to people that you usually just say hi to. Make small talk with them for a few minutes. There have to be people in your life that you’ve known for years, and yet, you’ve never had a real conversation with. These are the people you can practice with. Start a conversation with them and participate equally in it.

Now, take all that you’ve learned through these little exercises and go to your favorite lesbian bar or club. Go in and order yourself a drink to enjoy while you visually scope out the room. This time will be different because when you spot that attractive woman you would really like to get to know better, you won’t be hiding in the corner feeling sad because you know you’ll never get the chance. This time, you’re going to go up to her, introduce yourself and offer to buy her a drink. This will be the beginning of the end of you going home alone.

If bars or nightclubs are not your idea of a fun time, you can always join a lesbian dating site.  Many of them are free to join and you can check out the features of the site before you decide to upgrade your membership.  AllLesbianDating.com is one such site that gives you a wide range of free features you can use as you search their vast lesbian membership base for the perfect woman for you.

Gay Dating Online – The Solution for Shy Gay Men

In spite of what many straight people believe, not all gay men are flaming and gregarious. A lot of them are very shy, which is quite understandable.

Most gay men, even though they may have realized early in life that they were attracted to men, spend so much of their lives hiding who they really are, that it makes them shy. There’s either the fear of completely exiting the closet and telling the world they’re gay, or the fear of being shunned by family and friends once they all find out.

This shyness can be so debilitating that they don’t even try to meet other gay men for the possibility of a relationship. They can be practically antisocial from either that fear or as a reaction to any negativity that they experienced. With such a terrible case of shyness, how will these guys EVER meet the men they’re supposed to be with? There’s actually a really good solution to that dilemma: Go online.

There are numerous ways for gay men to “meet” and interact with each other right on the Internet. This can be done through gay dating sites, chat rooms, and on forums. There is a complete world for gay men on the Internet and you don’t have to worry about putting yourself out there at all. You can simply ease your way into a situation where you’ve got a delicious number of men at your feet and you haven’t had to do anything to make yourself a nervous wreck.

The way to introduce yourself online is by writing a kick-ass profile telling the world of eligible gay men all about you and what sort of man you’re looking for. Make it clear what kind of relationship you want to find. Don’t leave anything out. Your goal is to draw the right sort of men to you. Add a few recent, but great, photos of yourself to go along with your profile. This is the way you let other gay men know that you’re here and available. The best part for shy men is that all of this is done without having to interact with anyone.

Next, you’ll get a flurry of emails from men that have seen your profile. Again, this is something that you don’t HAVE to interact with anyone to read. Only IF you receive an email from a man that sounds promising do you have to do anything about it. When that moment arrives, you simply reply to the email and this can start an email communication. You may need to explain at some point that you’re very shy and need to feel totally comfortable before speaking to him directly.

The next step can be online chatting. This is another area where communication can take place without you feeling threatened in any way. When you and the man you’ve chosen to get to know better have had enough time chatting through instant messenger, you may feel comfortable enough to chat either by webcam or telephone. Whatever method of communication you choose, as long as the man you’re getting acquainted with is understanding, you’ll be meeting face to face before you know it.