Do You REALLY Want a Married Man?
by Dating Tips
Filed under Dating Tips For Women, Unhealthy Relationships
So you’ve landed yourself a handsome, successful and wealthy man to be with. He’s so romantic and never forgets special occasions. You can depend on him to buy gifts for you that you’ll love and will get noticed when you go out in public. He even sends you suggestive and sexy text messages for no reason. There’s no doubt that he adores you. Oh yes, he does sound perfect. Too bad you can’t tell anyone about him because he’s married.
You may have talked yourself into thinking you’re living in the middle of a romantic fairytale when actually what you’ve done is create a fantasy world for yourself. Part of you knows that it’s wrong of you to be stealing a man away from another woman. On the other hand, it’s not like you’re actually stealing him. It’s more like you’re borrowing him. Before you start protesting, has he told you that he’s leaving his wife to marry you? If he has, that’s one of the many lies this man has told you and will be telling you in the future.
Being involved with a married man rarely brings anything except heartache to everyone that’s a part of the situation. The list of lies is common and never changes. They include:
- He’s never done anything like this before (his wife may be able to enlighten you as where you fall on the list of women).
- His wife doesn’t understand him, isn’t interested in sex anymore, or leads her own life (actually, he still consults with his wife over important matters or decisions, has sex with her regularly and they take trips together).
- As soon as his kids are old enough to leave home, he’s going to divorce her and the two of you can be together. Find out how old these kids are. If they’re not even 10 yet, how many years are you willing to wait for them to grow up and move away?
Going down that list, here are the truths:
- If he’s willing to cheat on his wife with you, the odds are good that he’s done it many times before. You’re not the first and you won’t be the last. Also don’t be surprised if his wife contacts you at some point. If she doesn’t know about you yet, she will.
- While you’re taking trips alone on your vacation, he’s off on a second honeymoon with his wife in the Caribbean.
- He may genuinely care about his kids and not hurting them. In fact, most men that cheat on their wives dearly love their kids and will do anything to protect them from getting hurt. This includes divorce. The bottom line is that he’s never going to leave his wife for you.
Add all of this to the fact that you’ll most likely be spending all holidays and anniversaries alone, attending events unescorted, and growing older and lonelier all the time. In the end, is this the type of life you want for yourself? Don’t you deserve better than to be a booty call for a married man?