Are You Being Played by a Player?

The word “player” doesn’t mean anything positive when it comes to dating and relationships. A lot of guys LIKE the term and are quite flattered to be called that. It’s too bad that they are not mature enough to understand that it’s really NOT a compliment.

A player is, in essence, someone that manipulates, or “plays,” someone else to get what they want from the experience. Guys that wear this label typically hit on lovely women with the intent of getting them into bed at some point during their interaction, be it a night or a month. They win these women over through the sheer force of their personalities or by knowing exactly the right things to say and do.

Among the many negative qualities of a player is the way he reels in his women. He makes the woman of his current interest feel that she is the most beautiful and desirable woman on the face of the planet. Then he continues to build her up and make her the focus of his unwavering attention for however long he wants her around.

Once he’s received everything he wants from the experience, things start to change. This can happen drastically and all at once, or it can start to be noticed a little over time. Either way, the woman is on her way out when this change starts.

Women should do all they can to protect themselves from this type of predator, and make no mistake about it; a predator is exactly what a player is. He may not be physically harming anyone, but he’s certainly making short work of a woman’s self-esteem, not to mention the heartache he injects into her life. A player sucks all the good things that a woman feels about herself right out of her and leaves her feeling like a shell of her former self.

How do you protect yourself from this particular animal? First of all, use your intuition from the very beginning. You know that little feeling that tells you this guy is just TOO GOOD to be true? That’s what you’re going to pay attention to. If he seems to know all the right things to say to you and he is smothering you with all sorts of attention, back up a bit. See if you can find anyone in the vicinity that knows him. If he’s a player, other people will know him because you will have inadvertently stumbled into his territory. Pay close attention to what you find out.

There are some things to watch for, too. If this guy is gorgeous and confident, but other women are avoiding him, there’s a reason for that. You’re probably just a new pastry for him to try out. Supposing that you do get hooked up with him innocently enough, you’ll start to get an idea that he’s a player when his interest starts to cool. If it happens to you, don’t feel bad. Nearly, every woman alive has gone through at least one player in her life. It’s a case of live and learn.