The Worst Times to Break Up with Someone

Typically, you can tell when you’re in a relationship that’s really going nowhere, and you can feel when you’re ready to end that relationship. While it’s always good to know where you stand, it’s also wise to realize when the time of the break up is not right. Obviously, breaking up is never going to be easy, but you can make it even worse by choosing the wrong time to end a relationship.

For instance, birthdays are TERRIBLE times to break up with someone. So if you know that you’re going to end a relationship, please do so well BEFORE his birthday or well AFTER it. If you choose the day before, of, or the day after his birthday to break up, it will always leave a bad feeling with him. Every birthday is going to remind him that his relationship ended at that time. So, if you can manage it, time the break up so that it’s a decent amount of time on either side of his birthday and never, ever make it on the birthday itself.

Another awful break up day is Valentine’s Day. This is the day for lovers and couples to celebrate every year. If you decide to end your relationship on this day, you run the risk of ruining it for him for a very long time, if not forever. That’s why knowing when you’re ready to leave a relationship is a good thing as you can time the break up for a day that doesn’t mean anything to either of you.

Holidays should never be used to end a relationship for many reasons. Obviously, one of them is that this particular holiday may never be enjoyable again if the break up is pretty bad.  Another reason is that some people tend to buy expensive and extravagant gifts during the holidays. If you end your relationship prior to the holidays, you can save both you and your about to be ex-partner a lot of money because you most likely won’t be buying gifts for each other. In addition, the holidays just turn into very sad occasions when a relationship ends during them. This is true of the days immediately before and after them.

The basic rule of thumb is to get your break up out of the way as far ahead of any special day as possible. If you can’t do that, then you should try to grin and bear it through the special day and wait at least a couple of weeks afterward before making the big break. In this way, you’re saving someone a lot of misery that could follow him well into the future. You should be kind about the timing of your break up.

The exception to this rule is if your about to be ex is cheating on you and you just found out, or he’s done something even more horrendous. In cases such as those, he DESERVES to be miserable for future special days.

Special Doesn’t Have to Mean Expensive

So many people today neglect giving gifts for special occasions or just to saying “I love you” because they don’t feel they’ve got enough money to get something really nice. This is such an error in thinking.

Consider the current economy for a second. Unless they happen to be independently wealthy through family money or having a really good career, everyone else is most likely in the same financial boat as you, paddling very fast just to stay afloat. In other words, no one else has money to spend extravagantly, either.

You may wonder what it is you’re supposed to do when things come up in your relationship such as anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine’s Day and other holidays.  Some men have been known to pull a break up just before special days just so that they don’t have to worry about buying a gift. Once the day has safely passed, they start doing things to get back together with their ex until the next special day rolls around.  Sooner or later, the exes are going to get wise to this charade and simply get off of the roller coaster.

Don’t do this to your relationship. Have enough respect for your partner to be honest.  You may not have to talk about it at all. Instead, just do something imaginative on your own. There are many special ways of celebrating inexpensively.

• Arrange an indoor picnic: This can be lots of fun. You can choose to have hamburgers, hotdogs, pizza or any other affordable meal.  Spread out a tablecloth on the floor and add some candles for atmosphere. If the weather’s cold, a cozy fire in the fireplace is wonderful. Put on some favorite sexy music and toast with sodas.
• Pick various wildflowers for a bouquet: You can do this as an “I love you” or “I’m thinking of you” surprise. There are some wildflowers that are really quite lovely. You may also have access to privately grown roses, daffodils, irises and other flowers that you can cut and turn into a gorgeous bouquet.
• Make and serve breakfast in bed: This will mean so much on those mornings that you don’t have to get up at any certain time.  Even if all you can cook is toast, add a cup of coffee and a glass of juice and it’s still very much the thought that counts.
• Use your talents: It may be that you’re a phenomenal cook. If so, plan out a meal that you can afford and make it a fabulous night to remember. Maybe you’re a writer. Everyone enjoys love poems written especially for them. If you’re a musician, you’ve always got the perfect gift right there with you. Write a song just for your beloved.

As you can see, there are ways of getting around spending money that you don’t have and still do something special for the one you love. Take these ideas and add others of your own. Once your creative juices get flowing, there’s no end to the surprises that you can supply.