Help! My Boyfriend is Gay!

You’ve been dating the same guy for a year or more and he’s all you’ve ever wanted in a man. He’s amazingly handsome, sensitive to your needs, chooses the perfect gifts, and sex is usually more about you than him. Your friends tell you how jealous they are that you’ve got someone like this in your life. Life is beautiful and you look forward to a long and happy life with this man.

Suddenly, everything comes to a screeching halt. He sits you down and tells you that he has something to talk about with you. It’s easy to tell that it’s serious because he seems to be very nervous and on the verge of tears. You take his hands and tell him that there’s nothing that the two of you cannot get through together. Then he drops a bomb you were totally NOT expecting. It seems that he’s come to realize that he’s gay.

There will be many questions that you’ll have and you have the right to ask them.  If he’s as great as you think he is, he’ll do the right thing and answer all of them as honestly and kindly as he can. Next, there will be some decisions to be made, particularly around your relationship. This isn’t as simple as it would seem.

First of all, there’s the fact that he’s been dating you for so long that it’s highly possible that he’s bisexual with a heavy leaning toward men. If that’s the case, your relationship may not HAVE to end; that is if you’re willing to share him at least on occasion. On the other hand, he may now be telling you because he’s met someone that he wants to pursue a same sex relationship with.

There are so many things that you’re going to need to think through. The first one may be that you’re so in love with him that you think you’ll do anything to keep him with you even if it means that may have to share him sometimes with another man. In reality, this isn’t something that you may be able to handle.  Most people want a committed relationship with one partner and if this describes you, it bears some thinking about how you would feel being left alone while your partner was out on a date with a man.

Consider that he’s telling you because he’s made a decision of his own. He has decided that this isn’t a part of himself that he can ignore any longer and he’s going to act on it. If he asks for your forgiveness, friendship and support in coming out, try to keep in mind that this is a man you’ve loved for a while and probably still do love. The kindest thing to do for both of you is to let him go. It’s the only way that you’ll both be able to get on with your lives. Try not to hate him or resent him. When you’ve given yourself time to heal, he may be the best friend you’ve ever had or could ever have.

How an Indoors Girl Can Successfully Date an Outdoors Man

Consider this scenario: You’re out for the evening with a group of friends and you meet the most gorgeous man you’ve ever laid eyes on. He offers to buy you a drink and you accept, happily. As the night goes on, you and this man talk about everything.

Now, he does say that he’s more of an outdoors type of guy, but you assume that means he likes long walks on the beach and picnics in the park. You assume this because that’s YOUR idea of enjoying the great outdoors. It still doesn’t sink in when he picks you up for your first date in a jeep. You just think it’s kind of cute and different.

For whatever reason, the conversation doesn’t ever get down to the specifics of what he means by being an outdoors man. So when he asks you to go away with him for the weekend, you’re thinking a nice hotel with room service, or a romantic little bed and breakfast somewhere. What HE means is a weekend of primitive camping at his favorite spot in the closest national forest. You really should have thought better of it before telling him to just “surprise” you with the location.

There are many issues involved because among other things, you’re afraid of bugs and snakes, you LIKE to bathe and you don’t pee in the bushes. Granted, this is something you should have been forthcoming about in the beginning but who knew it was going to be a problem? Of course, NOW, you really like this guy and don’t want to mess things up. So what do you do?

It’s a bit late for an open and honest talk about how you feel regarding the Great Outdoors, but it still has to be done. Be honest about your fear of bugs and snakes. Also, you’ve got to tell him that showers and bathrooms are at the top of your list when staying somewhere. Impress upon him that you never took survivalist training and never wanted to.

If you explain all of this to him in the right way, he may not get back in his cool jeep and go home. Instead, he may find it challenging to teach you everything he knows about having fun outdoors. You may even be able to talk him into starting you out in a less intensely isolated environment. If he can compromise on at least camping within walking distance of a bathroom, that’s a start. In fact, you may even find that sleeping in a tent will be fun.

Once you get in the swing of your initiation into the wild, it’s only fair that he compromises and agrees to do the hotel and/or bed and breakfast with you, too. Life is all about compromising, and if you and your outdoors man can do that, you may each find that new experiences can be just as much fun as the tried and true ones.

What Men Want in Women They Are Dating

There are plenty of debates as to what men want in the women they date and have relationships with. You probably have known some of those women that really don’t seem to be anything special but they’re never without a date, and the men they date are pretty hot.

The big question comes in what do men see in these women? Part of the answer comes with regard to the type of man that is being attracted to these women. A mature man that’s grounded on all levels will want to find a woman for a real relationship. So what does a REAL man want in a woman?

1. Real men want women that are playful. Something that drives men wild and encourages a deeper connection is simply playing. Men enjoy being playful. They were taught to connect with others through action. Sadly, most women seem to forget or not know about that and try to talk their way into a relationship. Remember, that it’s not your words that will attract a man. It’s the experiences that you make with him. Things like playing or watching sports together will get his attention must faster.

2. Real men want women that are independent. A lot of women believe that men want a “weak” woman that makes them feel powerful and smart. This couldn’t be more false. A real man wants a woman that inspires them because of the awesome things she’s got happening in her life. They want women with purpose other than just being in a relationship. Real men aren’t intimidated by success and independence. In fact, they’re drawn to it. Don’t make him your world and drop your own responsibilities, interests and friends. But when you’re with him, BE with him.

3. Real men want emotionally mature women. When you attract a man, eventually you’re going to disagree on something. A mature woman doesn’t criticize or blame a man for the way she feels. She shares her feelings honestly so that a man can understand her better. This makes her more attractive to a real man. The way a woman handles her emotions is something that men look for when deciding if they’re going to get serious or not.

4. Real men want women they’re intensely attracted to. Men aren’t afraid of committing to a relationship. They’re afraid of being stuck in a relationship with a woman where there’s no real passion. Common ways women kill men’s attraction to them is through trying too hard or assuming the relationship is serious too soon. Just relax and let things happen as they’re meant to.

If you truly want to attract a real man into your life for a relationship, be playful, independent, passionate, and emotionally mature. Keep things fun and passionate in the relationship from the very beginning.

There’s nothing more attractive to men than women that know to have fun and relax. Just do some playful teasing, humor, being unpredictable and good old fashion flirting. You’ll be amazed at how many high quality men you’ll attract in this way.

Types of Women Men Avoid

Women are very picky about the types of men they will go out with. When they spot one of these types of men, they head in the opposite direction as fast as possible. Therefore, it shouldn’t be surprising that men also have their list of women to avoid like the plague. Why not have a look and see if you fit any of these types?

Smart Asses: These are the women that have an opinion about anything and everything under the sun. Now, while most men do appreciate an intelligent and articulate woman that can offer a lively debate on different matters, they don’t want to feel that they’re in the middle of a rally for a cause all the time. Sadly, these women just can’t help themselves. They MUST spout their opinions in a very loud and vocal manner so that everyone hears them. Men don’t like to be the victims of a verbal assault nor do they like to have their intellectual weaknesses exposed for all the world to see.

Gold Diggers: This is a pretty self-explanatory term and you’ve probably known at least one or two throughout your life. Now, guys know that in the course of wooing a woman, they’re going to have to spend some money. However, with a gold digger, you’re going to find you’re expected to pay for EVERYTHING. You’re also expected to buy them presents, all kinds of expensive presents. If you happen to have some money, these are the women you need to watch out for because they’re only in love with your money and rarely with you. They’re shallow and soulless, and wouldn’t know what love is if they were slapped in the face with it.

Ms. Right: At first, this may sound like the ideal woman so why would any man want to avoid Ms. Right? These aren’t THOSE kinds of “right” women. Rather, they’re the women that truly believe they’re always right about everything under the sun. No matter what the subject, these women know more than anyone else about it and they’re always right, and heaven help you if you dare to disagree with them. Men can only take so much of a woman like this before he’s ready to lose his mind.

Psychos: A lot of men have had issues with this type of woman. These are some scary females. They will plant themselves right in the middle of your life and refuse to go away. Even when you explain to them that you’re not interested in them at all, that only convinces them that they need to try harder to get your attention. Then they start doing some really weird things like stalking you and calling you all the time. Men don’t like this type of woman.

The Rebound: A woman that’s on the rebound can also be a pretty dangerous situation to get involved in. If she’s on the rebound, she’s not ready to be with someone new. There’s a good chance that you’ll end up being hurt when she decides to drop you because you’re not her ex.

Try not to be any of these women. If you see yourself here, you may want to make some changes.

Are You Being Played by a Player?

The word “player” doesn’t mean anything positive when it comes to dating and relationships. A lot of guys LIKE the term and are quite flattered to be called that. It’s too bad that they are not mature enough to understand that it’s really NOT a compliment.

A player is, in essence, someone that manipulates, or “plays,” someone else to get what they want from the experience. Guys that wear this label typically hit on lovely women with the intent of getting them into bed at some point during their interaction, be it a night or a month. They win these women over through the sheer force of their personalities or by knowing exactly the right things to say and do.

Among the many negative qualities of a player is the way he reels in his women. He makes the woman of his current interest feel that she is the most beautiful and desirable woman on the face of the planet. Then he continues to build her up and make her the focus of his unwavering attention for however long he wants her around.

Once he’s received everything he wants from the experience, things start to change. This can happen drastically and all at once, or it can start to be noticed a little over time. Either way, the woman is on her way out when this change starts.

Women should do all they can to protect themselves from this type of predator, and make no mistake about it; a predator is exactly what a player is. He may not be physically harming anyone, but he’s certainly making short work of a woman’s self-esteem, not to mention the heartache he injects into her life. A player sucks all the good things that a woman feels about herself right out of her and leaves her feeling like a shell of her former self.

How do you protect yourself from this particular animal? First of all, use your intuition from the very beginning. You know that little feeling that tells you this guy is just TOO GOOD to be true? That’s what you’re going to pay attention to. If he seems to know all the right things to say to you and he is smothering you with all sorts of attention, back up a bit. See if you can find anyone in the vicinity that knows him. If he’s a player, other people will know him because you will have inadvertently stumbled into his territory. Pay close attention to what you find out.

There are some things to watch for, too. If this guy is gorgeous and confident, but other women are avoiding him, there’s a reason for that. You’re probably just a new pastry for him to try out. Supposing that you do get hooked up with him innocently enough, you’ll start to get an idea that he’s a player when his interest starts to cool. If it happens to you, don’t feel bad. Nearly, every woman alive has gone through at least one player in her life. It’s a case of live and learn.

My Last Girlfriend Was a Lunatic!

How many times have you heard this from guys that you’re newly dating? You know the drill: You meet this really great looking guy that seems to have everything you’ve ever wanted in a man. There are a few dates where you spend time getting to know each other. Eventually, when discussing past relationships, he utters those dreaded words: “My last girlfriend was a lunatic!” Immediately, you go on the alert. The next few minutes just might make or break this budding new relationship.

The first thing you want to do is encourage him to talk. Tell him that you want to hear all about how things went with his last girlfriend and why she was so insane. Now, a man who is actually telling you truth will most likely not be so eager to give you details. In fact, he may try to change the subject so that the conversation now focuses on you.

If you’re feeling little alarm bells going off, though, you need to re-direct the focus back to him and the crazy ex-girlfriend. Ask him questions that he must either answer or say he doesn’t want to talk about the relationship. You can remind him that he really can’t just throw something like that out there and expect you not to want to know more.

Listen to his story and see how you feel about what he’s saying. If the ex was a stalker type, or tended to destroy his things when he walked away, you can offer your sympathy, and move on. He just may be telling you the truth. A good sign that he isn’t exaggerating is if he has some positive things to say about some of his ex-girlfriends with only one psycho in the group.

On the other hand, if every one of his ex-girlfriends were insane, or they cheated on him, or didn’t want to let him go to the point of  acting in the extreme, there may be something else going on here that you don’t want to be a part of. When you meet a guy where EVERY SINGLE ONE of his ex-girlfriends was psychotic or slutty in some way, the problem may not be the ex-girlfriends. The problem may lie within the man.

Ok, so SOME men can have all the bad luck in the world when it comes to women. However, the odds are greater that it’s not always the women.

If there seems to be a pattern in the women that this guy chooses, there can be several reasons for it:

1.  He may actually be a great guy that just cannot read women well.

2.  He may be a magnet for damaged women.

3.  He may just be addicted to the drama that comes along with mentally unstable girlfriends.

Whatever the reason, if this guy seems to have only horrible ex-girlfriends in his past, you may want to cut your losses while you can. Otherwise, you’ll be added to the list of insane girlfriends the next time this guy shares his unhappy past to a new woman.

Things Men Say and What They REALLY Mean

There’s actually a sort of code when men say certain things to women. The problem is that women aren’t usually clued in as to what these guys are really saying. So it’s time to have a look at some of these things in case your guy starts saying any of them to you. At least you’ll be a bit more prepared the next time you hear one of these phrases uttered by your man:

-  “I’ve decided to begin therapy.” For many men, this is definitely a step in the right direction. If he has issues and has recognized that fact, then going into therapy is huge. However, what can start happening now is that he gains an ally. This ally is probably going to be totally pro-him and anti-you. He may start coming home from his appointments sharing his feelings with you. The problem is that these feelings are full of all the things you do that are wrong and detrimental to him.

-  “I’m not in the mood to have sex.” This is a huge red flag because most guys tend to want to have sex all the time. Now granted, they may have an off day here and there, but if this is turning into an every night thing and you’re better acquainted with your shower massager than your man, it’s time to get to the bottom of his issue. If you can’t, it may be time to move on.

-  “I can’t seem to stop crying.” Men that are in touch with their emotions are wonderful to be with. However, there can be a limit to just how many tears you want to see. For a death in the family, sure, he’s going to cry. But do you really want him to be sitting beside you sobbing in a public theater at a romance movie? If you’re starting to feel like you’re the man in the relationship, you might need to find a real man of your own.

-  “I just turned in my two week notice at work.” This one can be wonderful if he follows it up with sharing his plans for a great new career that he’s decided to embark upon. In fact, you probably couldn’t be happier for BOTH of you. However, if he doesn’t seem to have any other job prospects in mind and hasn’t shared how he plans to pay his portion of the bills, if you’re living together, then you may have a problem. He may be expecting you to play Mommy to him and take care of everything.

-  “There’s something I need to tell you.” When a guy says this to you, brace yourself because something bad is coming. These conversations never end well.

-  “I think we need to take a break.” The relationship is over but he just doesn’t have the nerve to tell you. So he takes the wimpy way out. In fact, he may already have another girl on the side that you just haven’t found out about. Do him a favor and end the relationship permanently.

Signs That You Should Keep Him

It can be really hard to find the right guy, the one that you want to spend a lot of time with, and possibly even the rest of your life. Things can start out really well and even continue to go well for a long time. But it’s hard to decide if he’ll change into another person once you decide to commit to yourself.

There are some signs you can look for to help you decide if he’s someone you want to keep around. Have a look at these and take note of them:

• He calls you at least once a day just to say “I miss you” or “I love you.” This is one of the sweetest things that a guy can do for his girl. It shows you that you’re on his mind even when he’s away from you and he wants you to know that.
• He serves you coffee in bed in the morning, or even a full breakfast. If he’s willing to “wait on you” in this manner, you can tell he really cares about you. It shows you that he doesn’t expect things to be divided up into “his and her chores.”
• He remembers special occasions like the anniversary of your first date, first kiss, your birthday and other occasions. Best of all, he remembers these days with no prompting from you.
• You receive “I love you” gifts from him. For no reason other than that he wants to do it, he’ll send you flowers or buy you a special gift.
• He knows when you need some time to yourself without being told and without whining about it. Instead, he’ll make arrangements to do something on his own with friends so that you can be alone.
• He plans, shops for, and cooks meals for the two of you. When he’s completed cooking the meal, he serves it to you.
• Housework doesn’t faze him. He’ll help you with cleaning and will even do the laundry.
• He treats you as his equal. You’re a partner, not someone that doesn’t matter and who should be subservient to him.
• The two of you can easily compromise on how you’ll spend your nights or days out. He doesn’t demand you watch sports events or attend them constantly if you don’t like them. However, if you’re going to get him to the ballet with you, be prepared to attend a sports event with him.
• He never pushes you, but instead, he’ll stand back and respect decisions you make.

Obviously, if you can find a guy with all of these qualities, you may want to lock him in a cage or something to make sure he doesn’t get away. However, if you can find someone with just a few of them, you’re still way ahead of the game. The problem that most people have is when they find a guy like this, there isn’t any chemistry. Thus, lending credence to the myth that nice guys finish last. Keeping in mind that chemistry IS important, if you meet a guy with these qualities, you may want to give the chemistry a chance, too!

Why Doesn’t He Call After A Great Date?

Nearly every woman has gone through this scenario: You go out with a new guy and have an absolutely amazing time. It seems that you have everything in common and the chemistry is off the charts. After spending the evening together at dinner and a movie, or a club, he takes you home and you invite him in. Whether you sleep with him or not, there’s at least a lot of making out. By the time he goes home, you’re certain you’ve just found your Mr. Right. The next day you wait and wait for your phone to ring. It rings, but it’s never him. In fact, you never see or hear from him again. What happened?

Well, the truth of the matter is that, in spite of the fun you had, the two of you obviously weren’t on the same page. That doesn’t mean that he didn’t have fun with you and that he didn’t like you. It simply means that he didn’t view it from the same standpoint that you did. For whatever reason, he wasn’t that into you after all.

This can happen for many reasons. He may have already had someone else in his life that he was MORE interested in and you were just a distraction. Maybe he had the attention span of a 3 year old that loses interest in a new toy after a few hours of playing with it.  Whatever it was, just understand that if he hasn’t called you in 3 weeks, he’s not going to. Chances are he DID NOT end up in a coma from a car wreck or something. He just isn’t interested in you that way.

This means that you need to forget about him and move on.   Don’t text him saying you haven’t heard from him in a while. He either won’t text you back or, worse, he won’t even remember who you are. Just because you had a good make out session doesn’t mean much more to him than good, adult fun. It means that the two of you viewed that evening in totally different ways. Everyone has different agendas and you shouldn’t be shocked to find out that this guy’s was different from yours.

If you find that you overreact to every cute guy you kiss not calling you back, you may want to stop kissing so many of them. Save it for the one that really DOES seem to be on the same page as you. Typically, first dates don’t end up with a trip to the alter, and you really may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. As long as you understand that, you’ll find it a lot easier to deal with all of the guys that simply don’t call you back.

The one thing that IS important for you to remember is that when you do have a great night with a guy and you feel a mutual chemistry, if he calls you back the next day, he really may be Mr. Right.

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