Same Sex Couples and Children

While same sex couples can have all the happiness as straight couples, one thing they usually need to work a bit harder than others at is that of expanding their families with children. Thankfully, the idea that a gay couple should not be around children, let alone have them living in their households, has finally been put to rest for most people. Adoption laws have relaxed over the years, allowing a gay couple to now adopt children if they so choose.

If the couple consists of 2 women, it can be a bit easier for them to add a child to their family. Many women will decide to become pregnant through various methods and give birth to a child that will belong to both women. They can conceive through artificial insemination or even choose a man to father their child.

This is a little easier than adoption because the baby will legally belong at least to the woman giving birth. When one partner chooses to carry the baby, some couples ask a male relative of the partner not becoming pregnant if he will donate his sperm. In this way, there truly is part of both partners in the baby.

Male couples are also choosing to become biological parents. It’s a bit trickier but it can still be done. Surrogacy has become a popular option for gay male couples. While there are some definite legal things to consider with this, it can work out to be the perfect way for gay male couples to have their own children.

They can choose to have a friend or relative carry their baby for them or they can go through a professional surrogacy service. This may be the better option because the women chosen to carry the babies have already completed the physical, emotional and mental processes that must be dealt with when offering to be a surrogate. There are fewer risks for legal problems later when things are done this way.

If you and your partner are having issues with finding the right method for adding a child to your union, there are professionals that can offer you the best advice based on your situation. Whether you choose to go with adoption or surrogacy, you need to be confident that you’re going the best route for you and your partner. Surrogacy does offer the option to actually be a genetic part of your child even though you’re not able to carry the baby yourself. When you look at your baby growing up, you’ll be able to see a little of both you and your partner in her or him.

Adoption is something that’s always a viable choice, although a gay or lesbian couple may have the same difficulties with being able to get a baby that straight couples have. That’s because there will never be enough babies to fill the wishes of all the couples that prefer babies. If you can be a bit more flexible on the age and race of your child, there’s every reason to believe that you and your partner will be parents in no time.

Make Your Lesbian Relationship Work

Some women find that being in a lesbian relationship is one of the hardest things they’ve ever attempted. For others, it’s pretty simple and natural. In reality, if you’ve come out of the closet or are still hiding in that far back corner of it, it doesn’t matter. The basics are still the same as with a relationship between a straight couple.

A lesbian relationship still involves 2 people with 2 different personalities. Lesbians don’t just hold hands or do baking together. Just because you’re a lesbian, it won’t increase or decrease your chances of being hurt, feeling depressed or being affected by affairs.

That’s right; a lesbian relationship is a lot like a straight one. The one thing that’s different is society’s pressure on the gay community overall. Granted, straight couples don’t have to endure that unless they’re biracial. A lesbian relationship has ups and downs, just as a straight one does. These are dealt with similarly.

To begin with, it’s not easy being a lesbian. In fact, there are some countries that even ban gay relationships altogether. In the countries that are more democratic, lesbian couples are still fighting for their rights. So, if you and your partner happen to reside in a country that outlaws a public show of affection between gay couples, don’t push this particular envelope. It’s only going to hurt your feelings when you reach for your lover’s hand and she rejects it. That will cause an issue in the relationship.

Many times when your relationship is still new, it’s easy to forget that you’re not the only ones in love on the planet. You can’t get enough of each other. However, eventually that excessive fire is going to burn out a bit and you’ll feel more comfortable than excited with each other. Keep some of that spark alive or you’ll risk becoming bored in your relationship.

Don’t treat your lover as if she’s your best friend only. Treat her romantically as you would your true love. This keeps the love alive as well as the spark.

You and your girlfriend should not withdraw from society on a whole. Don’t try to make the world believe that lesbians are exclusive. Go out and meet other people of all persuasions. Socialize with straight and bisexual people as well as other lesbians. This adds a bit of newness to the relationship and will also work to keep the excitement alive between the 2 of you. Getting out and having fun together with others goes a long way to keeping the relationship fun.

Last, but not least, you and your partner should both have the freedom to be yourselves. Don’t try to change each other. There was something about her that attracted you to your girlfriend initially, and she to you. Why would you want to change any of that? You each need some space for your own personal life as well. In the end, it doesn’t matter how many more gorgeous women are in the world. You and she have committed to each other and that’s what is important.