Same Sex Couples and Children

While same sex couples can have all the happiness as straight couples, one thing they usually need to work a bit harder than others at is that of expanding their families with children. Thankfully, the idea that a gay couple should not be around children, let alone have them living in their households, has finally been put to rest for most people. Adoption laws have relaxed over the years, allowing a gay couple to now adopt children if they so choose.

If the couple consists of 2 women, it can be a bit easier for them to add a child to their family. Many women will decide to become pregnant through various methods and give birth to a child that will belong to both women. They can conceive through artificial insemination or even choose a man to father their child.

This is a little easier than adoption because the baby will legally belong at least to the woman giving birth. When one partner chooses to carry the baby, some couples ask a male relative of the partner not becoming pregnant if he will donate his sperm. In this way, there truly is part of both partners in the baby.

Male couples are also choosing to become biological parents. It’s a bit trickier but it can still be done. Surrogacy has become a popular option for gay male couples. While there are some definite legal things to consider with this, it can work out to be the perfect way for gay male couples to have their own children.

They can choose to have a friend or relative carry their baby for them or they can go through a professional surrogacy service. This may be the better option because the women chosen to carry the babies have already completed the physical, emotional and mental processes that must be dealt with when offering to be a surrogate. There are fewer risks for legal problems later when things are done this way.

If you and your partner are having issues with finding the right method for adding a child to your union, there are professionals that can offer you the best advice based on your situation. Whether you choose to go with adoption or surrogacy, you need to be confident that you’re going the best route for you and your partner. Surrogacy does offer the option to actually be a genetic part of your child even though you’re not able to carry the baby yourself. When you look at your baby growing up, you’ll be able to see a little of both you and your partner in her or him.

Adoption is something that’s always a viable choice, although a gay or lesbian couple may have the same difficulties with being able to get a baby that straight couples have. That’s because there will never be enough babies to fill the wishes of all the couples that prefer babies. If you can be a bit more flexible on the age and race of your child, there’s every reason to believe that you and your partner will be parents in no time.