Dating and the Single Parent

The world today is vastly different than it was in the 1950s. During that era, people rarely got divorced because it just wasn’t the thing to do. Couples stayed together whether they were happy or not. In the typical family, the husband went to work every day while the wife stayed at home and ran the house and looked after the children. This isn’t the typical family today.

A family today can consist of a father, mother and children, two mothers and children, two fathers and children, a mother and children, a father and children, or blended families that include step-parents and step-children. It’s the single parents that have the most interesting issues when it comes to dating. There are so many things they need to consider because there ARE children involved.

To begin with, if you have young children, you’ll need to be selective about whom you start going out with. Until you’re certain that this relationship may be going somewhere, it’s probably best not to have your children meet your new partner. If you’re dating a very nice person with domestic instincts, chances are your children will become attached to that person. If things don’t work out, you and your ex won’t be the only ones that will be hurt by a break up. Therefore, it’s usually best to keep your dating away from the kids at first.

In addition, as a single parent, you’ll need to make sure that the person you’re dating is safe. The last thing you want to do is bring home a child molester or other criminal and have that person around your children. Of course, hopefully you wouldn’t knowingly be dating someone like that.

However, when you do meet someone that you really connect with and the relationship seems to be moving in a really good direction, there will come a time when you’ll probably want to have sex with that person. Sexuality isn’t quite as guarded as it was in years past. It’s actually rather open these days, but that doesn’t mean you want your young and impressionable child walking in on you having sex with someone. So you’ll need to be very careful with that.

Depending on the age of your child or children, you may be able to have sex at your home.  A baby or toddler probably isn’t going to even realize what’s going on if you have someone spend the night. An older child, on the other hand, will certainly realize that SOMETHING is going on whether they know exactly WHAT it is or not. Teenage kids are going to be impossible to hide your behavior from no matter where you’re having sex.

The best idea when you have older kids is to stay overnight at home of the partner that doesn’t have children living there. If that’s not the case for either of you, then another option is to head out of town to a hotel. When you’re gone overnight, your teenagers will most likely know what you’ve been up to, but at least it won’t be flaunted right in their home.

If you become very close to someone, that’s the time to introduce them to your children. In that case, it’s not as likely that this person will be leaving their lives any time soon. In fact, they may even become a permanent part.

Dating sites for single parents are a great way to meet others who share your concerns and values when it comes to dating.  Check out Single Moms and Dads and start meeting compatible singles today!

Are You REALLY Ready for Marriage?

Amazing as it may seem, many couples are still getting married as young as they did 50 years ago. While most couples wait until they’re settled into a career, many still follow the unwritten rules of long ago when it was common to marry right out of high school.

Indeed, many girls spent their entire senior year in high school planning a June wedding. Their husbands usually had begun the jobs during high school that they would continue to hold until the age of retirement. Some of these marriages lasted. More of them did not.

Fortunately, more women started to attend college and make careers for themselves as time went on. However, something else happened along the way that seems a bit strange.

The maturity of both men and women seems to take longer than it used to. Whereas, years ago, 18 year olds might have been ready for marriage, currently, the maturity level of 25 year olds may not match that of those long ago 18 year olds.
People aren’t made to grow up as quickly as in the past.
That’s why it’s important that couples really need to assess their relationship before they decide if they’re truly ready to make that lifetime commitment to each other.

Marriage is something that should be taken as a serious step in a relationship. Too many couples plan only for the Big Day rather than a life together. There’s no longer the stigma that used to be attached to pre-marital sex. That, alone, caused many couples to rush into a commitment that neither party was ready for. It’s completely acceptable for many couples to live together these days without being legally married.

So why are there still so many couples rushing into marriage at a young age? One of these reasons is still, believe it or not, attached to sex. There are many religious groups that teach against sex outside of marriage even though marriage is more of a legal process than a religious one. Believers of these religions do seem to marry at a young age because of little more than wildly raging hormones. Sadly, the same beliefs that propel these couples into marriage too soon will also keep them together long after their lust is gone because divorce is forbidden.

If you’re an ordinary person with no strict and confining beliefs, there are ways to let you know if you’re ready to commit to one person for the rest of your life. Look at your feelings and intuition when it comes to the person you may be considering a life with. Never ignore anything that feels even a little bit wrong. When you’re ready to marry someone for better or worse, you’ll know it. If you feel even a small doubt, don’t ignore it.

While it’s true that it’s not always possible to foresee larger problems in the future, most of the time you can use what you feel for someone and how you connect to one another as the answer regarding whether or not you’re ready to be married.

Do You REALLY Want a Married Man?

So you’ve landed yourself a handsome, successful and wealthy man to be with. He’s so romantic and never forgets special occasions. You can depend on him to buy gifts for you that you’ll love and will get noticed when you go out in public. He even sends you suggestive and sexy text messages for no reason. There’s no doubt that he adores you. Oh yes, he does sound perfect. Too bad you can’t tell anyone about him because he’s married.

You may have talked yourself into thinking you’re living in the middle of a romantic fairytale when actually what you’ve done is create a fantasy world for yourself. Part of you knows that it’s wrong of you to be stealing a man away from another woman. On the other hand, it’s not like you’re actually stealing him. It’s more like you’re borrowing him. Before you start protesting, has he told you that he’s leaving his wife to marry you? If he has, that’s one of the many lies this man has told you and will be telling you in the future.

Being involved with a married man rarely brings anything except heartache to everyone that’s a part of the situation. The list of lies is common and never changes. They include:

• He’s never done anything like this before (his wife may be able to enlighten you as where you fall on the list of women).
• His wife doesn’t understand him, isn’t interested in sex anymore, or leads her own life (actually, he still consults with his wife over important matters or decisions, has sex with her regularly and they take trips together).
• As soon as his kids are old enough to leave home, he’s going to divorce her and the two of you can be together. Find out how old these kids are. If they’re not even 10 yet, how many years are you willing to wait for them to grow up and move away?

Going down that list, here are the truths:

• If he’s willing to cheat on his wife with you, the odds are good that he’s done it many times before. You’re not the first and you won’t be the last.  Also don’t be surprised if his wife contacts you at some point. If she doesn’t know about you yet, she will.
• While you’re taking trips alone on your vacation, he’s off on a second honeymoon with his wife in the Caribbean.
• He may genuinely care about his kids and not hurting them. In fact, most men that cheat on their wives dearly love their kids and will do anything to protect them from getting hurt. This includes divorce. The bottom line is that he’s never going to leave his wife for you.

Add all of this to the fact that you’ll most likely be spending all holidays and anniversaries alone, attending events unescorted, and growing older and lonelier all the time.   In the end, is this the type of life you want for yourself? Don’t you deserve better than to be a booty call for a married man?

Until Death Do Us Part Becomes Until I’m No Longer Happy

Marriage can be a beautiful and wonderful thing for many couples. It signifies their committed love for each other and their desire to be together long-term.

People love weddings. There are weddings now that cost in the hundreds of thousands of dollars.  The recent royal wedding of Prince William to Kate Middleton was estimated to have cost $34,000,000. Of course, not everyone can afford to shell out that kind of money for a one-time event, especially if this one-time event happens frequently.

Weddings ARE beautiful and gives people a chance get all dressed up, enjoy free food, music, dancing, and drinking. But what happens AFTER the wedding?

Too many couples focus on the event rather than the marriage. Everything is so busy and the couples are so high on excitement that it can actually be a bit of a letdown once they ride off in their Just Married vehicle. Now they’re stuck with each other. Imagine that!

Granted, if couples enter into a marriage for the right reasons, being together isn’t a problem. It’s just that too many people no longer get married “Until Death Do Us Part”.  Instead, they go into it with the mindset of staying together “Until I’m No Longer Happy.”
Even the most devoted and in love couples are going to have issues from time to time. It’s just not possible for two people to live together and never disagree on anything. If that does happen, that couple must lead very boring lives.

You’re ALLOWED to disagree and argue on occasion. It doesn’t mean that you no longer love each other or that the marriage is over. It simply means that you need to calm down a bit and enjoy the great makeup sex.

In years past, people simply did not get divorced. If you married someone, you better have planned to STAY that way because it didn’t matter what the issues were, divorce was typically not an option. Worse yet, if you were a divorced woman, you may as well have worn a Scarlet A on your chest. Thankfully, that time is long past. But it seems to have reversed itself. Now, people that get married do so knowing that if things don’t work out, they can always get a divorce. This, too, is a sad state of affairs.

Couples should never enter into a marriage with that attitude. A successful marriage takes work. This means that there must be give and take on both sides for a marriage to be a happy one. The commitment and vows you make to each other on your wedding day should mean something to both of you. That’s why many couples have taken to writing their own vows.

If you don’t feel that a traditional wedding is fitting for your lifestyle, choose the type of ceremony that works for YOU.   Whatever else you do, remember that your wedding is the event that’s meant to be the start of a marriage for a lifetime. Go into it for the long term, not just until your first real fight.

Is He Really Who He Says He Is?

With so many couples meeting in clubs, bars and on the Internet these days, getting to know the real person you’re interested in can become a bit tricky. Most of the time, those guys you meet in bars are all cleaned up for that one night because they’re hoping to get lucky. It’s not like they ever plan to see you again after the one night stand they think they’re having with you. They can tell you anything they want and pretend it’s true.

The same thing goes for the Internet. This is even worse in many aspects because you can’t even see the person you’re talking with at first. All you have to go on is what he’s telling you about himself. Of course, there are some things that you’ll know right off make no sense. If he tells you he’s a ruler of a small, unheard of kingdom, chances are he’s lying. You’ll also find a lot of rich guys that are doubles for Brad Pitt, George Clooney, or whoever you fancy currently. When they say that, they usually don’t plan to ever meet you face to face. All they’re after is a bit of cybersex and then they’ll vanish into cyberspace.

Keep in mind that unless you’re chatting with a guy on a webcam, he could be 60 years old, 5’5”, 300 pounds, bald and married. When he tells you that he’s 6’3”, 190 pounds, 35 years old, shoulder length hair and single, that’s HIS fantasy of what he wishes he was. So, if you’re not seeing this vision in front of you via a webcam, or from across a dinner table in a restaurant, reserve your thoughts.

Now, you still can’t relax even though you may behold the most beautiful man in existence when you lay eyes on him. Yes, he may be all he said in the physical sense but you’ve still got to unearth more layers of his true personality. Even beautiful men can have some very serious character flaws. Think Kenneth Bianchi and Ted Bundy. Many women found these men to be very attractive only to be realize too late that they were about to become the latest victims of The Hillside Strangler or one of the most infamous serial killers to this day.

Before you agree to meet a new guy in person, spend lots of time chatting with him. Talk on the phone, too. Get to know him from the inside out before agreeing to meet with him face to face. Even then, don’t invite him to your home and don’t go to his for the first meeting. Make it in a very public place and take some friends along. Introduce him around to them so that he understands that people you know have his name and description. This is your safety net. Be sure to also do some checking into whether or not he’s married or in a relationship with someone. That’s easier to do than you think:  Click here to search marriage and divorce records online

Only when you’re quite sure that he’s a straight shooter and that you’re safe is when you agree to meet him. He may just turn out to be your Prince Charming.

Really Bad Relationship Advice

I came across an article today that I felt offered some really, really terrible relationship advice:

Options For Your Mediocre Marriage:  http://www.cnn.com/2013/LIVING/06/02/marriage.with.issues/index.html?hpt=hp_bn8

For people that are stuck in a loveless marriage, it can be hell to figure out what to do about it.  The article covered some alternative arrangements people who are in such a situation could consider.

“Open” marriage was one of the alternatives.  I have never met or heard of any marriage or long-term relationship that was able to survive such a concept.  You’re either married or your not. Personally, I have always felt that this concept is a just a way for people to ease their guilt about wanting to fool around with other people.  Same thing for the marriage “sabatical” idea.

One option I can sort of understand is divorced cohabitation.  In this economy, many people’s finances are strained and they may not be able to afford a separation or divorce.  If they feel they just can’t stay married anymore but can’t separate due to financial reasons, this could be a reasonable short-term solution.  But their long-term plan should be to move out and divorce completely – there will be too much baggage to maintain a relationship of this sort long-term.

Overall, I feel that if you are not mostly content with your life in your marriage then you should make plans to get out of it and move on with your life.  Living in limbo is not good for anyone and will only hold you back from finding happiness.

The Grey Areas of Infidelity

If you were to look up the definition of infidelity, you would most likely come across something like “being unfaithful sexually especially to a spouse,” or “being disloyal.” Both of these are, indeed, true. When you have sex with someone other than your partner, you are definitely being unfaithful and disloyal to them. So that much is true. But what about the other ways that infidelity can occur? These are the grey areas when it comes to cheating. Some may consider these actions to be cheating but are they “technically” unfaithful actions?

By definition, being unfaithful doesn’t actually have to be by committing a sexual act with someone other than your partner. Any act that betrays your loyalty to your partner can also be considered cheating within a relationship. The grey area can become rather confusing in this way.

However, consider that infidelity means different things for various couples. That’s why you must sit down with your partner and discuss where you are in this grey area. Be clear regarding actions that you, personally, consider to be cheating. You must also find out your partner’s personal definition is of infidelity. When you’re both clear on the subject with each other, there’s no reason that this should ever become a problem.

The things that can easily fall into this grey area of cheating or not cheating include but aren’t limited to:

Pornography: This can be used to amp up your sex life if it seems to be lagging a bit. Many times viewing pornographic movies or photos together can re-ignite a flame felt to be long dead. However, it may be considered to be cheating if either of you is sneaking around and viewing this type of material alone. Keep that in mind if you feel the need to hide while you view types of porn.

Masturbation: Again, if this is something that you and your partner enjoy on a mutual basis, there’s not an issue. It also shouldn’t be an issue if one of you is indulging in this type of sexual pleasure in addition to mutually satisfying sex with each other. Sometimes it’s not possible or convenient to have sex with your partner and masturbation is certainly an acceptable option. However, if one of you is masturbating IN PLACE of having sex with your partner, then there’s a definite problem when this is preferable to enjoying your partner. In these instances, this could be considered cheating.

A Sexless Marriage:  You may feel that you have an excuse to cheat if your partner has cut you off sexually for a long time. While this is both unfair and unfortunate, it’s still not a reason to cheat. What this requires is either some serious communication and therapy to get to the root of the problem, or a divorce. A sexless marriage is not good for anyone and there’s no reason that anyone should have to endure this.

Those grey areas of cheating don’t have to be classified as infidelity; not if you’re using them as described. If you’re using them badly, it’s time to face the problem head on.

How to Know When It’s Time to Start Dating Again

One of the questions that come up time and time again following either a divorce or the death of a spouse is how to know when it’s time to start dating again. This is a tricky situation because if you start dating too soon, you’re doomed to fail. Not only that, people will start talking about you in a not so flattering way. On the other hand, if you wait too long to take the plunge, you may find that you just have lost interest in dating. There’s a delicate balance here and you need to find it.

There are some signs that will point you in the right direction when it comes to knowing when it’s time to step out into the world of dating. The first one of these signs is that you’re no longer in love with your ex-spouse. For a widowed partner, the love may still be there but when you can stop comparing everyone you may go out with to your deceased partner, then you’re ready to get proactive about dating.

In addition, with a divorce behind you, it may be difficult to stop comparing, in a negative way, everyone that you may feel an interest in dating. In other words, when you feel that you have totally dealt with and put the past where it belongs, you’re ready to get your feet wet again, and start taking some steps to meet the right dating partners.

Trust is another thing that comes up. It may seem that divorced people have more trouble with that issue than widowed ones but that’s not exactly the case. Obviously, a divorce can bring on many doubts about starting a new relationship. So, if you’re divorced, that’s an issue you need to resolve before saying yes to that first cup of coffee or dinner date. However, if you’re widowed, you may doubt your ability to find another partner that you can trust as much as you trusted your late spouse. You got comfortable in your marriage and now you just don’t want to start all over again.

Work on your self-confidence if you don’t feel that you’re in “dating” shape. If you feel that you need to lose a little weight or tone up, start eating healthy and hit the gym a few days a week. For older women, gray hair can be hidden. In that same vein, you may consider a new haircut or style to enhance your looks. Go shopping and get some new clothes that will flatter you and make you feel good about yourself. Once you’ve invested a bit in some self-improvement methods, you may find that you’re even excited about getting out and about.

If you’re really worried about going out with people you don’t know, have a friend or relative introduce you to someone eligible. Even if that date doesn’t work out to be anything important, it will at least give you a practice run. After that, you’ll be ready to re-enter the dating game.  A great place to start testing the dating waters again if you are over 50 is All Senior Dating.  Join free today and read our tips on how to set up a great dating profile to get started.

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