Are You REALLY Ready for Marriage?

Amazing as it may seem, many couples are still getting married as young as they did 50 years ago. While most couples wait until they’re settled into a career, many still follow the unwritten rules of long ago when it was common to marry right out of high school.

Indeed, many girls spent their entire senior year in high school planning a June wedding. Their husbands usually had begun the jobs during high school that they would continue to hold until the age of retirement. Some of these marriages lasted. More of them did not.

Fortunately, more women started to attend college and make careers for themselves as time went on. However, something else happened along the way that seems a bit strange.

The maturity of both men and women seems to take longer than it used to. Whereas, years ago, 18 year olds might have been ready for marriage, currently, the maturity level of 25 year olds may not match that of those long ago 18 year olds.
People aren’t made to grow up as quickly as in the past.
That’s why it’s important that couples really need to assess their relationship before they decide if they’re truly ready to make that lifetime commitment to each other.

Marriage is something that should be taken as a serious step in a relationship. Too many couples plan only for the Big Day rather than a life together. There’s no longer the stigma that used to be attached to pre-marital sex. That, alone, caused many couples to rush into a commitment that neither party was ready for. It’s completely acceptable for many couples to live together these days without being legally married.

So why are there still so many couples rushing into marriage at a young age? One of these reasons is still, believe it or not, attached to sex. There are many religious groups that teach against sex outside of marriage even though marriage is more of a legal process than a religious one. Believers of these religions do seem to marry at a young age because of little more than wildly raging hormones. Sadly, the same beliefs that propel these couples into marriage too soon will also keep them together long after their lust is gone because divorce is forbidden.

If you’re an ordinary person with no strict and confining beliefs, there are ways to let you know if you’re ready to commit to one person for the rest of your life. Look at your feelings and intuition when it comes to the person you may be considering a life with. Never ignore anything that feels even a little bit wrong. When you’re ready to marry someone for better or worse, you’ll know it. If you feel even a small doubt, don’t ignore it.

While it’s true that it’s not always possible to foresee larger problems in the future, most of the time you can use what you feel for someone and how you connect to one another as the answer regarding whether or not you’re ready to be married.