Until Death Do Us Part Becomes Until I’m No Longer Happy

Marriage can be a beautiful and wonderful thing for many couples. It signifies their committed love for each other and their desire to be together long-term.

People love weddings. There are weddings now that cost in the hundreds of thousands of dollars.  The recent royal wedding of Prince William to Kate Middleton was estimated to have cost $34,000,000. Of course, not everyone can afford to shell out that kind of money for a one-time event, especially if this one-time event happens frequently.

Weddings ARE beautiful and gives people a chance get all dressed up, enjoy free food, music, dancing, and drinking. But what happens AFTER the wedding?

Too many couples focus on the event rather than the marriage. Everything is so busy and the couples are so high on excitement that it can actually be a bit of a letdown once they ride off in their Just Married vehicle. Now they’re stuck with each other. Imagine that!

Granted, if couples enter into a marriage for the right reasons, being together isn’t a problem. It’s just that too many people no longer get married “Until Death Do Us Part”.  Instead, they go into it with the mindset of staying together “Until I’m No Longer Happy.”
Even the most devoted and in love couples are going to have issues from time to time. It’s just not possible for two people to live together and never disagree on anything. If that does happen, that couple must lead very boring lives.

You’re ALLOWED to disagree and argue on occasion. It doesn’t mean that you no longer love each other or that the marriage is over. It simply means that you need to calm down a bit and enjoy the great makeup sex.

In years past, people simply did not get divorced. If you married someone, you better have planned to STAY that way because it didn’t matter what the issues were, divorce was typically not an option. Worse yet, if you were a divorced woman, you may as well have worn a Scarlet A on your chest. Thankfully, that time is long past. But it seems to have reversed itself. Now, people that get married do so knowing that if things don’t work out, they can always get a divorce. This, too, is a sad state of affairs.

Couples should never enter into a marriage with that attitude. A successful marriage takes work. This means that there must be give and take on both sides for a marriage to be a happy one. The commitment and vows you make to each other on your wedding day should mean something to both of you. That’s why many couples have taken to writing their own vows.

If you don’t feel that a traditional wedding is fitting for your lifestyle, choose the type of ceremony that works for YOU.   Whatever else you do, remember that your wedding is the event that’s meant to be the start of a marriage for a lifetime. Go into it for the long term, not just until your first real fight.