Dealing with Interfering Parents

Parents are meant to look after you and keep you safe. Their job is also to make sure that you grow up to be smart enough to make good decisions for yourself and your life. If they do their job well, then they can safely release you into the world to live your life the way you see fit. This includes choosing the best partners. When your parents let you go, they should trust you to do what’s best for you. However, for many parents, that’s just impossible to do.

These are the parents that you’re literally terrified to take home your latest guy to meet. They tend to always do something that will either embarrass you to death or scare the guy off. Sometimes they manage to do both.

Your father may want to fire questions at your guy about his past, present and what he plans to do in the future. Worse yet, he may actually ask that horrible question of what this guy’s intentions are where you’re concerned. This is always the one that can make you want to crawl into the woodwork.

Your mother may decide that no one is good enough for you nor will there ever be anyone that is. This means that she’s most likely going to find many ways to keep you near her and away from men. Sadly, these are the mothers whose daughters don’t get a chance to live their own lives until the mothers have crossed over into the great beyond. These are unhealthy relationships and certainly don’t help the daughters to have the normal lives they’re meant to have.

Whether or not your parents act like this or worse, there are some ways that you can deal with the situation other than just living on the other side of the world from them and pretending that you’re not in a relationship of any kind. You need to prepare your guy for his first meeting with your parents. This may or may not be simple to do depending on his personality. If he’s understanding, you’ll be able to explain all about your parents to him and he’ll simply follow your lead. If he’s a bit of a wimp, he’ll probably run away as soon as you’ve explained what your parents are like. In that case, it is better that you know now.

Next, talk to your parents. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you won’t tolerate them treating your new guy any way that’s disrespectful. Give them a list of what they may and may not ask him. Warn them that if they do anything to deliberately embarrass you that it will be the last time they ever get to meet another one of your boyfriends. Then, remind them that they have raised you to have good judgment and that they need to trust that you’re using it when selecting the men you date.

When you’ve explained everything to them, that gives them the chance to do the right thing and make you proud by welcoming your new guy into their home. Otherwise, they’re showing you that you have no option but to keep them away from the men in your life.