Don’t Let Desperation Get the Best of You

Surprisingly, even in this day and age of women becoming totally independent career women, there are still a large number of them that feel that they MUST have a man in their lives before they are complete. It’s this way of thinking that leads these same women into acts of desperation when it comes to getting men into their lives. Some of these desperate acts are things that would typically shock the same women that are committing them, but at the time, they only see that they must do something to make the necessary changes in their lives.

A lot of these women are professionals such as attorneys, doctors, financial consultants, stock brokers, designers, and any other variety of careers. Most of them are successful in their chosen fields, but they feel that they’re missing something vital by not being in a relationship. This can also lead them to start being aware of their biological clocks ticking. Maybe they had not considered it important to have children when they were first getting started in their careers, but now that their careers are flying high, they see that maybe they’ve missed something really important.

If you find yourself in this position, there are many things that you should not do, the first of these being that you should never give into these feelings of desperation. When you do that, you begin acting in bizarre ways. One thing that a lot of women in this position do is start consulting with psychics, Tarot readers, and astrologers. They want to hear that they’re going to meet that special man. They want to know what he looks like, how old he is, what sort of job he has, when and where they will meet, and how many children they’ll have together. This can become a weekly if not daily activity and can end up costing a lot of money.

Another direction that these women will take is a step back into the past. They start trying to track down old lovers and boyfriends. Suddenly, they just know they’ve missed their chance at happiness because they turned away their “soul mate” due to wanting a career. Now, these women do such things as finding out their current phone numbers and/or address and set about contacting them. Oddly enough, these same very intelligent women are amazed when the old lovers don’t even remember them and haven’t spent their every waking moment missing them.

Then there are the many different bars and clubs that are really just meet markets in disguise. Desperate women feel that they must frequent these places quite a lot so that they don’t miss the chance of meeting their Mr. Right. This is, perhaps, the saddest of all the methods.

If you find yourself in this situation, don’t give into the desperation. You’ve made a success of your life thus far and there’s no reason that you won’t go on being a success, with or without, a man. Stay away from those measures of desperation and make little changes to your life that make you more available and open to having a relationship as a part of your life.