Reinventing Yourself to Get Your Ex Back

Breaking up with someone, or them breaking up with you, can be one of the most devastatingly painful events in anyone’s life. There’s no getting around the fact that it hurts, especially if you’re the one that didn’t want it to end. Those relationship breakups that are mutual are actually quite rare, and, most likely, your breakup wasn’t one of these.

You’re probably lying around crying and moping and trying to figure out how to invent a time machine so that you can go back in time and have everything like it used to be. Don’t waste your time and energy on this. Instead, sit up, dry your eyes, wash off your face and get ready to work. You’re going to reinvent yourself so that you can entice your ex back into your arms.

Before you even ask, yes it IS possible to do this even if he’s with someone else. In fact, that’s even better because, then, you can look at her and see what sort of woman he’s left you for. Then take a good long look in the mirror and see what you need to do to make yourself new and improved.

A lot of people get sloppy and unkempt once they’ve been in a relationship for a while. It’s like they get too comfortable and forget to be sexy and attractive for their partner. This is a definite relationship killer. Even if your partner loves you, chances are that he’s not going to love seeing you sitting around with a green face mask on or wandering around the house with your hair unwashed and no makeup.

Do you need to lose a few pounds or simply tone up your body a bit? If so, put yourself on a healthy diet and start working out. That’s not as hard as it sounds, either. You can start off by walking or riding a bicycle, either real or stationary. Just get in some activity so that your muscles can tighten up.

Change your hairstyle and/or color. If you think back, he probably always said there was a color or style that he either liked on you or wanted to see you in. Take advantage of that knowledge and get it done. The next time he sets eyes on you, this will be the hair style and color that he sees.

Take a good look at your wardrobe. Get rid of those sloppy old clothes that, while comfortable, never really did anything flattering for you. If they’re not in your closet, you won’t be tempted to wear them. You can find comfortable lounging clothes that are also sexy and attractive. Your goal is to become well-dressed no matter what the occasion.

Learn to cook the favorite dishes that you never “had time” to mess with in the past. You can bet his new girlfriend is cooking for him often and offering dessert in a way you probably never did. This will have you ready for the first new dinner you cook for him.

All of this time you should have been cutting off all communication with him. Now that you’re ready, the new and improved you should make it a point to “run into him” at a place you know he’ll be. Dazzle him with the new you but don’t be too obvious.  After all, pursuit is half the fun so let him think HE’S winning YOU back.

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