Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend

You have a gnawing suspicion that things aren’t quite right in your relationship. You may even suspect that your man is cheating on you. Short of catching him in the act, what are the signs to look for? If you want to know how to tell if your boyfriend is cheating, pay attention to the following clues:

• Look For Signs of Change – Anything, any change good or bad. A more attentive boyfriend can be as much of a sign of a cheater as a suddenly inattentive one. Men who cheat often feel guilty and that guilt can lead to outward signs of love and affection towards their girlfriends. They foolishly believe that giving them more affection and attention when they are around less makes up for the fact that they’re giving someone else love and affection as well.
• Sudden Changes in Schedule – If your boyfriend is cheating, one of the ways to tell may be if their schedule suddenly changes. The man who used to be right home for dinner at 6pm suddenly has late night office work. Going into work at 9am suddenly becomes a 7am office arrival. An especially good clue is the need to suddenly run back to the office after a phone call – especially if it’s a wrong number call.
• Change in the Adjustment of the Passenger Seat in His Car – It’s possible that he’s been escorting his new love interest around in his car on the sly, so this is one thing to look for. Assuming that you’re normally the passenger in his car, the position of the seat shouldn’t change unless someone else has been sitting in it.
• A Sudden Interest in How He Looks – This is a classic sign. The boyfriend who didn’t care about his little potbelly is suddenly at the gym working out. Grecian formula turns up in the medicine cabinet.
• Is He Suddenly Picking Arguments With You That Have No Basis? – Some men will pick a fight with their wife or girlfriend so they can have a reason to storm out of the house and to their new lover. Not all who cheat behave the same way, of course, but you should wonder if he is seeing someone else if you begin to see this pattern.
• He Suddenly Needs More “Space” – If your husband or boyfriend goes from wanting to spend the quiet nights at home and the fun weekends with you, to having to work late and take a business trip on Saturday, these are clues that he may well be cheating. A man who starts telling you that he needs his space, or has to have more time to himself may in fact be giving that extra time to a new love interest.

How to tell if your boyfriend is cheating isn’t the same as a decade or two ago. It used to be that perfume odors on clothes or in the car, or a lot of wrong numbers or hang-ups on the home phone were the primary indicators. Now women and men are equally apt to wear cologne, and many women don’t wear any at all. And, cheaters have taken to using their cell phone, instant messaging, text messaging or e-mail as contacts.

Chat rooms and dating sites are instant means to cheating that leave no home phone clues as well. Of course, there’s also the issue of whether online sex is cheating. That would be much more difficult to tell until and unless you found the clues on the computer.

By themselves, the clues listed above are not necessarily proof that your man is cheating, but suddenly seeing one or more of these signs should raise a red flag if you are already suspicious of his activities. These are often big clues on how to tell if your boyfriend may be cheating.