Using Facebook to Find a Lost Love

Facebook has become the favorite internet social community for millions of internet users. It’s the cyber hangout where you can connect with your friends and catch up on things. Not only can you keep up with your current friends, but you can find those people that you’ve lost touch with. This is really awesome news for people that are hung up on a lost love because now you can use Facebook to find and reconnect with that lost love.

Following are some tips on how to best do this through Facebook:

1. Become an active member of Facebook. You don’t have to be a member of Facebook to search for someone but that’s all you can do. Even if you find them, you can’t send them a message or connect with them. So you need an account, set up your profile, and add some Facebook friends. You don’t want your lost love thinking that you’re just there to find them. It’s better if they think you ran across them accidently.

2. Search for your lost love. You need to have as much information about the person you’re searching for as possible. This includes their name and where they live. A first name will net you way too many people to search through. There are many people that don’t use pictures of themselves as profile pictures and your lost love may be one of them. This only makes your search harder. This step can be the most frustrating of them all.

3. Study their information once you find them. Now, reacquaint yourself with the object of your search. Carefully read all available information on their profile. Are they married or in a relationship? The more information you have the more informed a connection you can make.

4. Consider the reasons why you want to find them – Before connecting with them, figure out why you even want to. Are you trying to get them back, are you just curious about them, or do you just want to talk to them? A lot of time may have passed so keep your expectations reasonable.

5. Make the connection. Send a message or a friend request to them and see what response you get. Don’t dwell on the past or expect them to remember the same things you do. Just see where it goes.

6. Be friends. You may want to re-kindle that past love immediately, but your past love hasn’t been standing still while you’ve been apart. You need to find if they’re still the person you remember. Get reacquainted with them. Find out what they’re doing now and what their goals are. You’ll need to ask the right questions and don’t assume those answers will be what they were in the past. Like you, they’ve also grown and changed over the years. You need to know this new person they are now.

Something to keep in mind is that you can only reconnect with your past love by using Facebook if this former love is actually ON Facebook. In spite of the large Facebook population, your past love may be one of the minority numbers that doesn’t use this site. In that case, you’ll need to find another way to reconnect.