Is There Room in your Relationship for a Baby?

For centuries, it was customary for couples to marry and begin reproducing as soon as possible. In fact, many women were severely depressed if they were unable to conceive and men felt that they had been stuck with a “barren” woman, thereby rendering her defective in some way. Of course, it rarely occurred to most of these men that the fault may rest with THEM and not their wives. At any rate, that’s just how things were. My, how the times have changed.

These days, couples aren’t in quite as much of a hurry to start adding to their family as in days gone by. Most of the time, both partners usually have individual careers that they want to get off the ground.  Since the woman is the one that will need to give her up body and time to the pregnancy and birth, she usually is the one that will have more say so in when the actual reproduction process will begin.

Something else that has become a bit more common is couples that are so into each other that they may not have room in their relationship for a baby. This isn’t to say that they’re selfish or self-involved. It only means that they really love each other and have such a strong bond between them that it may be hard to fit in someone else into the relationship. These couples have planned their lives out for the most part. They like traveling together and they love participating in nightlife activities. Picking and going somewhere at the last minute is also something they love. The spontaneity and the freedom of being able to do things at the drop of a hat is something that doesn’t happen once you’ve become parents.

Admittedly, these freedom loving couples are looked upon as odd, but the truth is, these couples are the ones that know what they want in life and aren’t ashamed or afraid to admit it. Not all couples are meant to be parents. If you and your partner fall into this category, you should be proud and relieved to understand this about yourselves and the sort of lifestyle you want to lead. Couples that know what they want are the happiest in life.

If you and your partner have an active and spontaneous lifestyle that keeps you on the go and keeps you both happy, you may never want to include children of your own in your relationship. There’s nothing wrong with that, either. In fact, when you want your kiddie “fix,” you can always offer to babysit for nieces, nephews and god children. That’s a situation that gives you and your partner some time to enjoy the company of children and gives their parents a much needed break.

If you and your partner have chosen not to become parents, you should be aware that there will always be someone that will be judgmental and be sure that something’s “wrong” with you. Try to be patient with those people because they will most always have closed minds.